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writes:I know this may seem odd for a lot of people to hear, but I'm a 16yo guy who is not at all into pornography. What I wanna know is, am I the only one? All my friends say I'm weird because I don't like it, but I personally don't understand why they do like it. I mean, I don't get why a guy would wanna stare at and get off on girls with no self-respect on the internet who obviously have implants, fake tans and hair extensions (don't ask me how I learned about hair extensions because it's a long and disgusting story), way too much make up, surgery on their genitals, well, you get the idea. Basically they're fake from head to toe. I've even read some of the porn questions on this website, and I was shocked at the number of girls who said their bfs actually stopped having sex with them because they get off on porn instead. Are they being serious? I've asked my friends why they look at it, some of them just said for the hot naked chicks. To me, though, there is nothing attractive about them, but it's no wonder girls are insecure because they get it in their heads they have to look like that for guys to like them. So, do my friends just not realize how fake the girls in porn are? Do most guys not realize it, and is that why some would prefer it over their gfs? Because they think those plastic girls are better? Are there any guys here on dear cupid who prefer porn to your gfs who are willing to share your reasons? I promise I won't criticize you, I'm just curious.I do understand that there's amateur stuff out there with more real-looking people, but even so I also don't understand the thrill of watching random people have sex. Are there any other guys out there like me who don't like it? Are there any guys who used to like it but don't anymore, and what made you change your mind?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): Hey, you are one in a million because you see the truth already. When you get older, women will love your attitude.
Remember, a lot of porn stars do the job for the money, not really the enjoyment. And yes, they do look ridiculous really. And maybe you can see the falseness of it all.
I am sure you appreciate beautiful women without needing to see them all naked.
I wish my 45 year old partner was like you. I would be one happy lady!
Nothing wrong with you at all. You are fine as you are :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): I like porn for the girls, the sex is not so much my main interest. With exception of fake tits, I personally really like that fake look, but that's just me! I love a girl with loads of makeup, blonde extentions, tanned skin and piercings everywhere, tattoos and other that other sexy stuff...
As for guys who are not interedtd in porn? Well mate there are heaps of 'em!!. I've been looking at porn for years and I have got pleanty of mates who are not interested in it. At first I thought that they just wern't admitting it but over the years I've realised that we're all different. Porn does it for some guys and doesn't for others. The same will be for the girls too, some will like it and some not.
Only thing is, you won't notice guys who don't watch porn becuase they're not going to rant 'n rave about not watching it! Guys who watch porn tend to be more verbal about it thus being this is easily noticed.
If you don't like porn your not wierd at all. Its just you and how you are as a person.
You'd be surprised as to how many guys are actually NOT into porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): Well yes, you are every girl's dream! How I wish my bf was like you. Maybe one day. Thank you for your post, you made me smile. I'm so happy to know there's at least one guy like you out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): I love every part of what you said.Its so very honest, and true!And yes, there ARE more people like you out there! Its just, usually, incredibly hard for them to be truthful to themselves and their partners as they see it almost as a shame against their masculinity.My boyfriend (during his very early teens) confided in me that he would watch porn at every single given opportunity. Now, he tells me that he really doesn't see the likenesses anymore. Porn is a fantasy world, and they aren't real women. Or men.What we love each other for and can't get our heads around is, Why would somebody want to "get off" on watching a so-called "couple" have sex when, like you say, the men and women are completely fake... and they're acting? They don't even lust or love one another! Make YOURSELVES the fantasy! The feelings are a lot more satisfactory....!
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reader, Cupid Boy  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 I think the appeal is precisely that it IS fake and has no basis in reality. The same way that movies or World of Warcraft will always be more exciting than your real life. Would you criticize Star Wars for being fake? These things are total fantasies which reality cannot compete with. Face it, if real life was that good, no one would need TV, videogames, movies, romance novels, or pornos for that matter.The problem is that when you get lost in fantasy, you're no longer making any contribution or positive difference to the world and to those around you. Spend 20 years watching porn and you'll end up with nothing at the end of it (except maybe erectile dysfunction which more and more guys in their 20s are experiencing!). But spend 20 years on difficult real-life tasks, like building relationships, and you will go through lots of pain and suffering but at the end will have something substantial and lasting to show for it, as well as the feeling of having made a difference in the world.Glad you posted this, because you always hear from guys on here claiming that ALL guys use porn and that anyone who says they don't is lying. Don't listen to them when they say you're strange. In the long run, you may be better off than them. I would certainly never encourage someone who didn't like porn to try and develop a taste for it, just to fit in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): I'm fifteen and I'm just amazed.I've never met a guy that doesn't like it. That's fantastic!You'll be the one to get real sex, while your friends enjoy the screen.Good for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Wow, three cheers for you! You will have gained the respect of thousands of women just by asking your question and expressing so clearly why pornography is DANGEROUS and DEGRADING!
If only there were more guys like you out there. Don't change your mind and don't be influenced by your unthinking peers. They are thinking with their genitals you, on the other hand, are definitely thinking with your brain!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 March 2011):
 You are awesome! You just summarized my thoughts on porn! I call them "plastic bombshells" and I know they have to earn a living same as anyone else, but blech! You're not missing anything. If you find and fall in love with someone, it's going to be amazing. One of the absolute greatest things to explore is just like C. Grant said - learning in person each other's bodies without either of you worrying about looking like the plastic bombshells if you're a girl and for you, twisting yourself into a pretzel while performing sex acts that are beyond the exotic for 88 minutes straight and wondering why she's not screaming nonstop like a screech owl on meth.Don't listen to your friends. Porn is like a drug and just as addicting since masturbating to it causes your brain to fire endorphines like drugs do.Be yourself, and like I said before, you're awesome!
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (13 March 2011):
 If only you were five years older, because I have been wondering if there was a guy like you out there.... I don't know why guys like it but you just keep on bein yourself. :)
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (13 March 2011):
 Good on ya for knowing what's right for you and what works for you. You will meet a natural girl one day and be very happy. Without baggage. She will be a very happy camper.You are miles ahead of your friends in recognizing the fake aspect of the porn that's so out there. They will probably run up against all that fake stuff if they ever try to have a real relationship with a real girl and wonder why it's not working. Because their ideas of how to relate to a real girl will have been warped. Adolescent interaction is often difficult. As is teenage dating. Working all that through is a learning experience. But it's an *essential* learning, socializing experience. To be crude, dating a teenage girl and learning about stimulation together, sex notwithstanding, is incredibly importatant to the process of becomming an adult. Paying $29 for all-you-can-consume on-line porn just circumvents the socialization process. And leaves (usually) guys socially inept. Why bother figuring out what makes a girl work when you can jerk off to a big screen.So, easy gratification? WTH, as a teenager, that's what it's all about. Or learning to be a functioning adult. You're on a way more succesful track.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): as a teenage girl growing up in society you have just made my day. thank god there are guys out there with some sense...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Hey bro! This is a huge blessing you have. Many many men are into it and I was once addicted and I started viewing around age 13. As you get older, it will become more common for men to view and thus the more pressure and normality you will feel in viewing it. Do your best not to give in to such a norm. always do whats best for yourself and dont let anyone judge you for it. Women will appreciate this so much and see it as very respectful and this will increase your chance at finding the right amazing and beautiful woman. Proud of you bud. Message me anytime.
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