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writes:Is it normal for a guy to get lucky with a woman the first time meeting them? I mean i am on dating sites and when i decide to go meet a girl and wether we go for drinks or play pool, or just hang out it seems like they always make the first move. I mean i am not the best looking guy or the most fit (ya i got a bit of a beer belly but i am not super fat). Like i have had girls just come right out and say to me "So umm can i kiss you now?" then once they kiss me it usually ends up in the bedroom... Am i destined for just being a piece of meat? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): No guy is just a piece of meat, UNLESS he allows himself to be.
Maybe your meeting the wrong kind of girls of these dating sites?
Why not try something new? Maybe you'll find someone better?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): Is it normal? What's normal for one person is not for another. Everybody is different. But, in general, women who just meet you and are making the first moves and sleeping with you on the first date are probably not quality girls. Its a kind of desperate way to behave and they are probably girls who aren't too lucky with the boy's.
Don't get me wrong, sometimes two people have an immediate connection and sleep together right away and end up getting married. But its usually the exception to the rule. And it doesn't sound like you felt you had any special connection with these women. In fact you felt like a piece of meat.
What you would be better off asking is, is this what you want? If its not maybe you would be better off getting off these dating sites and finding more legit ways of meeting quality girls. Work, through friends, playing sports, at the beach, stuff like that.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 If you don't want to be a "piece," then tell the girl that you want a committed relationship before you have sex.
Yeah, Lexie is right... where are you guys when we need you?
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 No, you're not destined to be a piece of mean if you don't want to. So the girls make the move, they kiss you and you end up in bed...do these girls drag you to bed against your will? You're a willing participant here aren't you.
Do you want this to stop? Do you want a proper relationship? If so, then say no to sex on the first (second or whatever) date. Be honest about it and tell the girl you'd prefer to get to know her first.
So many women complain about men who're only after sex. You need to find one of these girls if you don't want to be a piece of meat. How do you do that? By not ending up in bed so fast.
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