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Is it normal that my girlfriend only orgasms once during our sexual encounters?

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Question - (10 March 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 10 March 2008)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

help! I have no problem getting my girl friend to orgasm once, but after I do she doesn't want any more? Is that ok or am I doing something wrong? And is it ok that it only takes a min or so to do it?

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (10 March 2008):

Tisha-1 agony auntOnce is great per encounter, and you're really on the right track being concerned for her pleasure as well as yours. Don't put undue pressure on her to have more orgasms just to make you happy...

Just to follow up on what troubledtoomuch mentioned, if she doesn't want to continue on after she's had the orgasm, and you've not had one, then maybe you need to talk with her about this.

I'm also curious about it only taking a minute for her... seems a bit fast if we're only talking about direct stimulation here, but then maybe she's really easily aroused!

Sometimes after orgasm, it can be too intense to continue direct stimulation--it can feel painful rather than pleasurable, but give it a little time and then you can proceed again!

Good luck!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008):

Some women become hyper-sensitive after an orgasm, in some this means they can be very easily stimulated into another, but other any stimulation becomes painful. This is just how some women are, it is neither right nor wrong, not anything that can be "fixed".

She may also just be satisfied, get down on your knees and thank god for this. If she is satisfied, why on earth should she want more? Go ahead, jerkyourselve off a dozen times. Don't want to? What is wrong with you?

It is a myth that all women CAN or indeed even WANT multiple orgasms or even more then once during love making. She ain't a porn star.

As for coming quickly, gee, we should all have your troubles. It may just mean she is very sensitive and/or that you two are well tuned into each other. The idea that women require endless amounts of foreplay is a myth, when masturbating men and women need roughly the same amount of time.

About the only problem I can see is that during intercourse she comes in a minute, you haven't and she doesn't want to continue until you come. But remember, if she becomes hypersentive after an orgasm, by insisting you are asking her to basically suffer the same as probing an exposed nerf in a broken tooth (or so Ihave heard it describe) not exactly a nice thing to ask of your gf just because you think women should have half a dozen orgasms.

The "goal" in being a good sexual partner is to make the other side happy, NOT to break a new world record, if one orgasm is what does it for her, then that is alright. Pat yourselve on theback, your a stuf,you satisfy your womans needs.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008):

Sometimes my wife orgasms only once and sometimes 3 or 4 times, but she enjoys it every time. I had a girlfriend many years ago who could only orgasm once and she enjoyed sex very much. The best way for her was oral and then she enjoyed the intercourse, even though she couldn't have a second orgasm.

I am a little confused by your first sentence. Did you mean that she doesn't want to continue having sex after she orgasms or that she just doesn't care if she has another one? If she wants to stop the sex after she orgasms then I could see that this would be a problem for you. My wife wants to continue, even after she thinks that she won't orgasm again. It still feels good for her. The other gf I mentioned was the same.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008):

Hi Hunny

The fact that she orgasms is a great thing and it doesnt matter how quickly, if she is happy then your doing a great job love Im sure if you were not pleasing her there would be no orgasm so carry on hun your doing just fine :} TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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