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writes:Hi,im a married woman,two years from now i met a cute guy who is also married.We are physically attracted to each other but till now i refused to have sex with him.He says he will wait till i'm ready,we are very close emotionally we share everything except sex.Is that normal for a man to stay in a relationship for so long while there is nothing sexual happenning between us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): The best idea if you so choose to not tell your husband is to cut all ties and communication with this other guy. He needs not be in your life, simply because he is weak to you and you to him....meaning you both are neither strong enough to resist one another emotionally which has sexual potential. Take a look at your marriage and ask yourself is there something this one guy had that my husband lacked and I sought this out in the other guy to fill my void. Take time now to build your marriage stronger. Invest in your husband, see his good qualities and bond to him like first love. Best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for your answers.
i'm touched that you take time to answer me.
the situation is still the same i don't know if i must tell everything to my husband and put an end to this emotional affair.
your answers is helping me to think about my situation differently and i will give you a feedback about my decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): does it make it right that u are married, cheating emotionally, soon sexually.
where does your hb and his wife fit into your "affair"
LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): It's called an emotional affair. And yeah its quite normal. In time the affair will become sexual. It doesn't matter whether sexual or emotional if ur feeling void in any way and is using another person to fill that perceived void then that is cheating. It doesn't always means sex when one cheats. Youre cheating especially since you both have discussed when sexually would be a good time for u. Friends don't seek u for sex or to fill a void that u are missing with ur mate. But yes it is common for many ppl to cheat emotionally. It makes the conscious feels less guilty while filling that void. And since u say you're both physically attracted to one another I'm guessing the guy knows its just a matter of time before u two have coitus. He may be hanging around in anticipation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): Emotional affairs, which don't involve sex by definition, are just as painful to the spouses and sexual affairs, and in some cases can be more painful.
Either work on your marriage, or get out of it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 October 2011):
 If there is nothing sexual happening between the both of you and you are both married then how can you call it a relationship? It is more like a friendship and it is safer that way. Do you really want to hurt your husband and his wife by having a sexual relationship with him? It is OK to keep him in your life as a friend but once it goes by that you will be in a huge mess.
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