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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been steady at 3rd base for about a year and eight months out of our two and a half year relationship. Early on I stated that I didn't want to have sex before marriage and he stated that he was fine with this.But now, with talks of engagement starting to come up, I'm uncertain if I EVER want to have sex with him. I'm worried that I am just disinterested in sex in general. We usually only make out once or twice a week (on the weekends when we spend the nights together, we're both just finishing up our degrees right now).Right now we're having a long distance relationship as I'm studying overseas in Norway. We haven't seen each other in two and half months. And I haven't had any really strong sexual urges towards missing him.Is it natural to have such a low libido at such a young age? I'm 23. He's stated before that he wants to do more, but most of the time I just can't get myself aroused enough.Is this a bad sign for the future?
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reader, person12345  +, writes (20 March 2011):
 It could mean you lack good sexual chemistry, OR it could mean that you haven't gone far enough to really find out. It's really hard to tell if you're sexually compatible before you actually have any sexual interaction. I understand you want to save yourself for marriage, but have you considered going further than making out (say fingers and hands) just to make sure you have some chemistry? It could be bad to get married to someone you just don't work with sexually or simply aren't that attracted to. If you don't masturbate, starting might also spark your sexual appetite.
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