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writes:New Relationship anxiety..help.advice!I have always had a slightly anxious mistrusting personality and have found relationships difficult. My last relationship of 1 year ended in December when I discovered he was cheating with multiple women and his ex girlfriend. It was hard but I know I deserve a whole lot better! :)Recently I met a man online and we texted for a while then met up for a drink and a chat. 3 dates later and he still seems to like me(this is also one of my doubts). He confides in me about work , life stresses and his interests with me so there is no doubt that he wants to spend time with me. We have gone through the whole gamut of conversation about cheating and stds and he seems quite keen to continue seeing me. When I was stressed last night he gave me a cuddle and stroked my hair.However because I am anxious I am feeling the what ifs creep in,he doesn't mind me texting him,but I don't want to go overboard and when I get anxious that's the first thing I want to do ... *sigh* I managed to not do it today so far so good!I need some advice on how to keep sane and not go overboard,I do tend to get attached quickly and even though I realise I hardly know him and he may not be 100% right for me I still overanalyse!
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reader, Gertie +, writes (20 March 2011):
Gertie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both of you,it all makes so much sense! So I am dong my best to not over text and let him get on with his very busy job. He felt bad on Saturday because he got sick halfway through our date so I had to take him home and get him settled..he kept apologising but I wasn't concerned..having a nervous disposition doesn't help and all the so-called rules on relationships confuse the heck out of me...slowly but surely...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): I do the same thing!!! My advice keep your self busy! I know that sounds lame, but relax and find something to occupy your time. I do the same thing, but I always think more on the negative side of things and end up flipping out on them, and creating issues that didnt even need to be there.
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