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30-35,
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writes:I met a guy a few months ago while on vacation, he lives 6 hours away, but we exchanged numbers, and agreed on being friends, which obviously didn't last long. I feel very drawn to him, which doesn't happen very often, and never so quickly. I can deal with the fact that he is far away, but there are things he does that concern me. When we text, I feel like I'm not the only one he's talking to, but when we video chat, he opens up, and it feels like what we have is real. I have never felt like a guy was two-timing me before this, so I don't know if it's just the distance, or if I need to pay more attention to my instincts.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 September 2013):
 well if the only fear you have is that you are not the only one he texts with you are correct. he probably texts with other friends and co-workers and family...
Now here is reality... you are young and you are 6 hours apart. you met during vacation which meant it was not an accurate portrayal of real life for either of you.
The goal of LDRs is to not be LDRs... that has to happen no later than 2 years from meeting or it's all a waste of time to be honest.
there are exceptions... our dear couple friends who are married a year now..live 2 hours apart by train for another 2 years or so... but they skype 2 hours nightly and he comes home every weekend.
My husband and I met August 2010, started dating December 2010 (2 hour car drive apart)... were serious by April 2011 and by December 2011 he had moved to be with me.
so here's reality... until you guys have regularly scheduled meetings, he's just some friend you met on vacation.
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reader, babyzbird  +, writes (8 September 2013):
 I myself really don't like texting and can take a while to reply to a text. I never reply right away even when I am having a conversation with someone because I am always doing something else.
This can easily be the same situation. Unless something else is making you feel uneasy about his loyalty then I wouldn't worry about it.
I think being away from him is bothering you and it's easy to get upset over anything. Are you sure you will be happy being in a long distance relationship?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (8 September 2013):
"When we text, I feel like I'm not the only one he talks to."
That's not exactly fool proof evidence. Some people, including myself, aren't much into texting. I remember when my wife and I first started dating, I felt like she could care less about our phone conversations based only on her tone of voice. I've since learned that that's just the way she is.
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