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writes:Met a guy on a dating site, we totally clicked and I really really like him and he feels the same about me. We have so much in common too. Seems great right, but I recently found that he or someone that looks amazing like him, posted pics and stuff on a "looking for casual sex" site. Granted it was before I met him, but is it totally creepy to have a relationship with someone that posted his junk online and was looking for random hookups? Should I bring it up? Nothing more has been posted since we met. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2013): BIG RED FLAG ! This guy uses women on the side. Maybe he does have feelings for you but he wants side action. He could be a sex addict and no this is not normal. I predict he could cheat on you in the future. I would dump him before you get hurt. Sorry hun just sounds creepy . Always be safe dating online you never know who you are talking with. Get tested for stds and use protection. I have been there myself I was completely fooled by a man online only to find I was just one of his many girls. Good luck stay away from losers, you're better than that :)
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reader, Yos  +, writes (21 January 2013):
 "I just found out my girlfriend visits casual sex sites on the internet. She says its just for fun but i'm really shaken up by it. What can I do?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2013): I'm the original poster...To clarify why I happened to be on the site.. sometimes I look on there just for laughs just to see if anyone in my area I know is on there. Not cuz I'm interested myself. And the things he had on there were from like a month ago, like looking for a particular night, not a continuing profile
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 January 2013):
 I had looked for casual sex with strangers in the past. I don't look at myself as creepy. Now I don't feel it is anything worth my time. When I am dating with serious intent I would make sure all traces are gone, even if they belonged to the past. When you said he posted junk online, is that his private parts? I would find that creepy though. He is either indiscreet, or he is fine with whatever women give him at the time. When he has you it is common sense to delete any profiles he's had. You can tell him that since he still has that online you feel that he's still advertising himself as single and therefore you can't open up to him.
I know you are all innocent, but be prepared to answer why are you on the casual sex site yourself. You probably typed in the username in the search engine and it appeared on it. People usually use the same usernames on different sites.
If he deletes them right away, then you have to let the subject go. If you find yourself imagining who he had been with and the thoughts of him having other women bother you, it could mean that you have incompatible morals.
Just because he "forgot" to delete his profiles would lose big points for me.
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reader, Darrell Goodliffe  +, writes (21 January 2013):
 Iam asks a valid question. It seems odd that youd randomly find him on such a site unless you were looking there yourself which I can only assume you were. It seems one of the things you have in common is the websites you visit.
Seriously though, no I dont think you should bring it up and I think it would be unfair of you to do that. We all have a past and something somebody did in that, unless its obviously way out there and terrible, shouldnt be held against them especially since by your own admission, hes posted nothing since you properly got together. In other words, its not as if now your together, hes somehow actively looking to cheat, which I agree would be wrong. Let go of this and enjoy your relationship with this man, dont let something silly, small and totally insignificant blight it.
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