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writes:Back in April I started meeting up with this guy. We would end up kissing, and I'd stay the night, but we didn't go any further than kissing. He eventually told me that he was falling for me, and made it clear he might want a relationship in the near future. I didn't see him for about 2weeks (this was normal) but bumped into someone I knew. I hung around him for a few days, and we kissed, and he became my boyfriend. I still liked the other guy though, and after 2 weeks I broke it off with my boyfriend, because I couldn't force my feelings away for the first guy. I was going to leave it a couple of weeks, and get in contact with the first guy, but then someone else who I knew previosly came along. I kind of liked him, and we got together, and for the first few days it was great. But my feelings for the first guy still haven't changed, and I've been with my boyfriend just over a month. Thing is, I do love my boyfriend, but at the back of my mind I can't help but think of the first guy. I think I need to get out of this relationship, but how? I realise that whatever I say or do I'm going to hurt my boyfriend, but is it better to break it off, or keep trying to push my previous feelings aside? If I end it, what do I say, and how? I need as much help as you can possibly give, please!
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reader, yobe daka  +, writes (15 August 2009):
 Hi,you need to think before do anything.Honestly dear first you need to be true to your setf don't starts a fight that you be bitten at the end,you need to fair to your fleeing and to other people how their flee at the end.you need to go to someone who is fair to you so don't false yourself to someone who doesn't want to be wit you now and why at first place you choosed to leave him for another one so know who you are,what you went and than go to the one who understand not who tell you hold on latter for what resone?if it's love their is no like that love latter no!alhough you have fleeings for him just let it go coz it's not made for you.
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reader, \m/J.D\m/ +, writes (15 August 2009):
 im glad you realize that you cant stay in a relationship when you have feelings for someone else, much respect for you there :) and secondly, as you understand he will be hurt no matter what you say, but bare in mind a month long relationship is much easier to get over than a say 1yr relationship. and i genuinely believe the best thing you could do in this situation is be 100% honest with him about why you cant continue your relationship with him, he will appricate the honesty and have alot more respect for you in the long run.. yes he will be hurt but he can move on knowing the truth, imagine how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot, he broke it off with you for some reason then you found out it was something different.. you would feel even more betrayed, you would jump to conclusions thinking something may have been going on behind your back and you would then take that into a next relationship feeling insecure. hope Ive helped. take care and good luck! JD :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): Look I dont think you actually love any of them but you do like all of them.Its simple who do you like the most, who do you want to be with?Go after that person and i do hope it works out, but one word of caution if I was Guy A, B, C or D I wouldnt be very impressed because you havent made them feel like being with them is anything more than a short term thing.You need to ask yourself before you get into another relationship, what is it YOU actually want, maybe being single for a while would not be the worst thing in the world?
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