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writes:I have been fuck buddies with a guy for quite a while now, but lately things are getting weird but for whatever reason we havent seen each other for a couple of weeks. That's because when one of us plans to chill something always comes up. Now he's being so hot and cold with me. He even asked me when was the last time I had sex. What is he thinking? Now he replies to my texts with mostly one word answers. What is going on? We are just fuck buddies I don't understand why he is being this way. Is it because he feels something more or he thinks that I do or what is it?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 See ? Probably is just this. You canceled on him and he got miffed.
I would not do anything at all right now, after all you are not his gf but just a f.b., like you said ,- there are no obligations. Like if he is not in the mood, he is not even supposed to tell you : I am sorry, I am in a bad mood but I'll make it up to you soon, be patient.
It's all more casual, if-it-happens-it-happens. ( And that's precisely ,if you ask me, what sucks in being f.b. )
Anyway, it's early to freak out, it's just a couple of weeks , his coldness may not mean anything in particular.
Just wait another week , then text him ( not whiny !, just light and breezy ) see if he wants to hang out and take it from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhen I mean somethin always comes up meaning I cancel or he does. I think the ego thing is the closest answer so what should I do about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhen I mean somethin always comes up meaning I cancel or he does
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reader, Tizzie0612 +, writes (12 December 2010):
 souds like he sexually frustrated. probably upset because you guys havent been fuking and something just coincidently happens on the day yall are suppose to fuck.just give it time and wait for him to say he wants to fuck.or just ask him when is the next time he available and set a day.Thats how i worked things out when i had a fuck buddy to say the least.you both got lives and both are busy ..so set an open day and handle yall buisness
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (12 December 2010):
I am no as optimistic as the other Aunts because I have yet to see any FWB situation upgraded to something more serious. Never say never, of course, - just ,statistically speaking, "he feels something more " is not the most probable answer.
When you say something always come up, does it mean that lately you have had to cancel or refuse appointments with him ?...
It might be an ego thing- he may think that you are losing interest, or becoming less available, or getting sex from other sources , - and he is annoyed. ( Males are competitive and territorial whether there are feelings involved or not ).
Then again, it's early to say, it is just two weeks he can be genuinely preoccupied with something and not in the mood for texting.
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reader, xoxDrkrosexox +, writes (12 December 2010):
i really dont kno. I dont think hes doing this on purpose but if he is its becuz he wants you to pay more attention or cuz hes busy with other stuff. But dont let him know you need him. that'll fuck up the situation even more. Just let him kno wats going on and if he acts like he doeent give a fuck then push him aside. it might be hard but u NEED too. TRUST ME .
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): it sounds like hes starting to want something serious rather then a fuck buddy and like hes offering you a chance to be his girl before he considers someone else, you should talk to him about it so you two dont have to play this game of wondering whats going on and what each other wants, if that makes sense.
hope i helped:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwho ever answers my question i will answer yours in return
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