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30-35,
*pendy
writes:theres this guy that i like and am getting to know.chatting.. and gong on dates with..this guy says he wants to love me..treat me like a princess etc:hes really sweet..and gentleman.. and he keep asking me if i like him and what i think of him..but i dont know what he wants me to say.but when he tells me those things i dont really think about it..like yeah yeah whatever...is it normal to feel like this?? is like it think hes just saying that to get into my pants??cos guys they all call me sexy and cute and sex is all guys seem to want from me:( when i dont give in..they leave me:(.. i want sex in a relationship and not just sex.am been paranoid:(oh and is ok..if i flirt wth him..subtly?? oh and is it a bad thing that we talk about sex?thnx,...xxmature answers please?/ am 20 hes 22
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (10 February 2010):
 It is good and even desirable to have sex in relationship. So, be careful in your choice, which you make. Be more selective even giving smile to anyone. Sex is most personal and private thing in life, so take all care that your message should not meant that your sex need is social. To be social means to be friendly, and all positive, but not sexual. And, to be sexual means to be in properly checked relationship.
You have my best luck, good girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): He's all about getting into your pants. Find a man who treats you like a princess, and not only talk about how he wants to treat you like a princess (while in reality treating you like a slut).
I know how you feel. I get compliments all the time too when I go out, and guys make moves on me. Thats why I only have 1 guy friend (and we're all thinking he's gay 'cus he never had a mature relationship). All other guys, they want sex, or a relationship.
But seeing as you're not looking for friends (like I am) but for a relationship, this could be easy. All you need to do is learn how to read a mans true intentions. A guy who wants a relationship with you will take his time getting to know you. He will also stick around when you say you do not want sex without a relationship. A good way to see him for who he truly is is to say "I will only have sex when Im in love" for example, or "if we end up liking each other and want to have a relationship, then sex will come naturally", both of these giving you as much time as you want to discover if this man is fascinating and interesting and worth having a relationship with.
Me personally, if I met a guy I would like to get to know, possibly have a relationship with, I'd give it two weeks before sex. Two weeks of BEING in a relationship with him. I count the days from when its official. The keyword here is official, that is when everyone knows you are a couple, when you've already figured out he's a decent guy. Then I'd wait two weeks. Some will wait longer. That is because, it is important to give the relationship a good foundation. A relationship built on sex will never be very deep, and always dependent on the sex (although there are of course exceptions).
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 February 2010):
Just keep on dating as you are and see whether he can stick it out. That's the only really know whether he is interested only in sex. Continue with the dates and continue to get to know him and see what happens.
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