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writes:My friend is 13 years old, we are both in year 9. I used to fancy her but then I found out she smokes. That's a big turn off for me. She has a boyfriend who is 16 and in year 11. I know she sounds like, well, not a great person but she's cool really. Anyway, her dad let's them stay over his house during half term and they share a bed. I asked her what they 'get up to' together and she said honestly nothing happens. I want to believe her but she lied about being a non-smoker. I then found a message on her phone telling him that she'd bring the condoms. She laughed and said she'd explain it. She hasn't yet. It was probably just a joke between them but you never know. I seem to be the only guy in school who thinks it's crazy that 13 year olds are doing it like bunnies. I don't feel young but when I take a step back and think, yeah I'm young, I'm only 13! Sorry for going on like this. My questions are, is her dad wrong to let them sleep together? Am I weird to think this? And should I forget about it, drop the subject and leave them to their buisness?Thankyou :) (oh and I'm aware that it's illegal)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): wow ur a really sweet guy. ur really young to be looking out for her, i bet u have ur own problems. but really thats sweet of u. remain the same. this shud be the father's problem... i think what the father is doing is irresponsible. where is her mother? if she doesn't have a mother then i can understand why she has turned out the way she has. and her father prolly has guy like rules. does she have girl friends? any female company? just try and be a friend to her. she doesn't seem to have a good secure home ( assuming her mother isn't there with her). and she lies... hmmm... she cud either have serious trust issues or she cud b just a spoilt brat. just stick around and see what happens. if u get the chance then do let her know about ur views... ie.. she prolly shudn't be doing what she is doing. if she trusts u enuff i think she will ask for ur help wen she needs it. when that happens tell her what she did wrong and do help her. if its serious better ask someone who is elder and whom u can trust to help. but we are always there. so if u have any problems just blurt it out.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 April 2010):
He is really. Either he is naive, or just doesn't give a damn. You're a good caring guy, so remain a friend. But it's best not to get involved in this.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Her Dad probably (naively) thinks they're not having sex. Maybe he doesn't want to interfere. Maybe he knows they're using protection and thinks if he takes the condoms away they'll do it unprotected.
It is surprising how many 13 year olds are doing it... =s
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (1 April 2010):
 Its great to hear about someone who wants to enjoy their youth instead of worrying about sex all the time, congrats. It's very nice of you to worry and most people would say that no they should not be sleeping together like that and I'm wondering why he is staying there in the first place. I just can't see them having a serious relationship. So yeah the dad is wrong and no you're not weird at all but in the end it is his choice and there is nothing you can do about that except be there when she needs you if you want to hang around at all. In the end all of this will come back to haunt her.
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