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writes:i think my boyfriend is seeing someone behind my back the other night he said he was at home but i knew he was not because his car was not there.when questioned he said it was but i am not blind.he said he loves me more than anything so why lie to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Manya  +, writes (30 September 2007):
I thought anonymous' reply was excellent. What I've learned, is not to confront or accuse. For all you know, he was planning a surprise for you!
Truly, it could have been anything from a secret errand that he'd rather not
explain to you, or an expired affair that had him doing some awkward thing
like paying a bill.... OR maybe he lent his car to a buddy and has to
deny it on his account? who knows????
I would say, for now, just be extra YOURSELF that he loves, and don't worry!
Then, if it was a wandering eye thing, you''ll win him back anyway!
If it keeps happening and/or you find proof, then you'll have to do something then.
Best of luck!! I hope it's nothing more than a stupid guy thing.
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reader, hit-the-road,jack... +, writes (30 September 2007):
in pyschology a level classes i learnt a few ways of telling whether people are lying or not.
a few things to look out for -
touching their nose (blood rushes to the skin in the face and makes the nose tingle)
covering the mouth
avoiding eye contact, looking down or to the side
closing thier body off, like crossing knees and arms
thewn again these may just be coincidental etc.
don'tread too much into them but hope they might help
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): Well clearly you caught him in a lie. So that is obvious. I don't know why he lied to you. Obviously he is hiding something from you.
I don't know what your relationship is like or why he feels he has to hide anything from you. He could have been with another girl. But he also could have just been out with his friends. Are you very possessive?? Cause if you are than maybe he is just scared to tell you that he wanted to go out with his friends. In that case you need to loosen your grip on him.
But if this is not the case and everything is "fine" or so you think, then he could be having an affair or cheating on you.
Look I have been with guys before who are straying or ready to end things with me and till the very end tell me that they love more than anything. Guys will do that. So them saying that is no telling of their true actions or how they really feel. You gotta know actions speak louder than words, and his actions in this case is a big sign that something is not right in your relationship. Like I said maybe you are too possessive and he is trying to not upset you. Or maybe he is doing stuff behind your back. Whatever it is you should get to the bottom of this and figure out what is going on and fix the problem. If he is straying, then you got to dump him and move on. But if it is that you are just possessive and he is trying to go out with his friends (which is totally normal) and is afraid to tell you and so he lies, then you have to be a little more open about his freedom. But do get to the bottom of whatever is going on because it is not right.
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reader, Pinkbees09 +, writes (30 September 2007):
 Well, anyone could say they love you and be lying. Anyways just keep watching him closely but don't run him away.
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