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He's started sleeping on the other side of the bed. Why?

Q.   What does it mean if my boyfriend/person I am seeing has started sleeping on the opposite side of the bed. We used to spoon all night, and even before we fell asleep, and I never woke up once without him by my side , but recently he has started ...

A.   10 December 2007: maybe he just likes his space and spreading out? or maybe its your bed. me and my boyfriend both have single beds, so if we sleep in them we'll cuddle up all night. but when we stay at my mums house in a double bed, we sleep miles apart!... (read in full...)

Any ideas for different positions?

Q.   Hi, I am in a relationship for almost 1-1/2 years, my boyfriend is passionate about sex. We are physically active. Can anyone suggest me with some good tips of passionate sex and also some cool ideas that i can try out with my boyfriend and some ...

A.   10 December 2007: yeah definitely ann summers all the way. don't get embarrassed about going in there it's just like a normal shop, not proper scary and intimidating or anything. but yeah you have no idea the difference it can make - i thought me and my boyfrien... (read in full...)

My husband of 7 years asked me to put my finger in his butt during sex... Does that make him gay?

Q.   My husband of 7 years ask for me to put a finger in his butt when i go down on him and his favorite position is doggy style does this make him gay?????...

A.   10 December 2007: maybe he just wants to experiment and see what it feels like? and amybe he loves doggy style just because its the position that feels best to him, not cos hes gay.... (read in full...)

I keep getting flashbacks of seeing him in bed with his ex. How do I avoid being driven crazy?

Q.   I can't stop thinking about how my husband had sex with his ex... I am in much pain when I see my husband's kids because of the flashback that I have seeing him with his ex in bed making these kids! Horrible thought, but it's true. We've married ...

A.   10 December 2007: i hate my boyfriends ex with a passion, although i love his little baby boy. i think (i worked this out after a LOT of thinking) that the reason i get worried, jealous etc of his ex is that i see all the love going towards his little boy going i ... (read in full...)

Has my boyfriend cheated and given me a sexually transmitted infection?

Q.   My boyfriend of 1 year (we don't live together) left his email open on my computer recently. I couldn't help but look, and as it turns out he has a profile on AdultMatchMaker looking for someone special to share 'oral sex and one on one sex'. when ...

A.   18 November 2007: "you had best make it up to him?" what are you. his slave? and seeing as he is probably the cause of your problem at the moment anyway, i have no idea how he can have the cheek to say that! just leave him girl, you deserve better.... (read in full...)

Another man kissed me while I was drunk. My soon to be fiance doesn't know and I'm not sure what to do.

Q.   A couple of weeks ago my boyfriend was away south working for a while. I went out with a few friends and got very drunk, ending back up at someone's house I didn't know very well. We were also smoking weed, so I was really gone after a while, all ...

A.   22 October 2007: shit! this happened to me too! so glad its happened to someone else. well the good news is youve told your boyfriend a bit, most of the truth. you could just say "people are spreading stuff about me. if you hear it, its nto true." OR you could te... (read in full...)

I wanted a meaningful relationship but we had drunken sex. Is it over before its begun?

Q.   i made the mistake of having sex with a guy whom i have gone out with just on 3 dates. i really hate myself and i cant sleep coz i am so depressed. i think that we could have a real nice proper r'ship that work out until i messed it up by going to ...

A.   22 October 2007: YES. definately. i sleep with my boyfriend three days after i started going out with him, and we're still together 3 months later. just make sure the other things in the relationship are good too, like you communicate and make each other laugh. i... (read in full...)

I want to put things right - what can I do to make her feel special?

Q.   how can i suprise my girlfriend? we have been a bit rocky at the moment and i want to put it behind us and move forward...

A.   22 October 2007: thats proper nice fo you to want too. i wish my boyfriend would do that for me when we're rocky lol. wel think about things she likes. has she ever said "i wish one day that..." ? try and see if you can make any of her like wishes/dream... (read in full...)

What are your opinions about boob jobs?

Q.   Hi Dearcupid, I'm just wondering your opinions on boob jobs! I'm 15 and roughly 5"10...i know, very tall! And i feel that my tall build does not match my breast size of a 34A - To be honest, some 34A's are a bit big on me even...I've been...

A.   21 October 2007: i have proper small boobs and used to worry about it all the time, but kept my worries hidden from my boyfriend, but in secret hated my boobs and thought he must think they were like, a letdown. one dayh i mentioned in passing i was thinking... (read in full...)

Girls, would you find it insulting for a boy to ask you out by text?

Q.   this is a question for girls, would you find it insulting if a boy was to ask you out, say to go to the cinema using a text message? and would you be more likely to reject them?...

A.   21 October 2007: i wouldnt find it offensive or insulting no, but if youre worried about it you could put before asking them "I would ask you face to face but im a bit shy" or sumthin like that?... (read in full...)

It's good he wants to be more sexually adventurous, but isn't he taking this a bit too far??

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months now, and our sex life's been good, but last week he suggested we have sex as long as the room we're in has a rancid smell to it. He said the smell of the room has to be really, really, rancid because ...

A.   30 September 2007: euw. i wonder what kinda rancid smell he wants? i dunno if you're not tottally totally opposed to it i spose you could do it once to check it out. but then again if you do and then he wants it like that every time... i dunno i just dont see how ... (read in full...)

I'm worried I'll disappoint him in bed!

Q.   Im in a new relationship but scared i'll disappoint him in bed. He is a bit older and has been with lots of women, whereas im not really experienced in this department. I love him so much, we talk openly about sex and he says theres no rush but the ...

A.   30 September 2007: i told my boyfriend how worried i was about the fact he was older than me and had more experience and i thought he was better in bed, and that i was worried he wasnt enjoying it. onmce you tell them it gets a lot easier. so communication is the key ... (read in full...)

I've been shaving my pubic hair, and it's gotten itchy!

Q.   Hey. I've been shaving my pubic hair for a while now, but I always get red and itchy parts when I do. Also I can never seem to completely shave off all the hair, there is always little stubs still visable. I was wondering how to solve this problem ...

A.   30 September 2007: lathering up a loada soap or shower gel will help. also going in different direcitons not just one, but be careful cos this can result in ingrown hairs (yeeuch)... (read in full...)

Is he seeing someone behind my back? Why would he lie?

Q.   i think my boyfriend is seeing someone behind my back the other night he said he was at home but i knew he was not because his car was not there.when questioned he said it was but i am not blind.he said he loves me more than anything so why lie to ...

A.   30 September 2007: in pyschology a level classes i learnt a few ways of telling whether people are lying or not. a few things to look out for - touching their nose (blood rushes to the skin in the face and makes the nose tingle) covering the mouth avoiding eye ... (read in full...)

My bloke went off with my best mate, they split and now he seems to want to come back? What do you think?

Q.   i broke up with ma boyfriend 2 months ago,actual he started dating my so called bestfriend,i hear they broke up, he never wanted to talk to me but a month a go he started sendin me IMs asking me if i hate him,why am i acting like he is not ...

A.   1 September 2007: id tell him to back off, and if he doesnt, just not let him round yours. him sending yuou IMs showed that he was still interested, but if you broke up with him once,and he was willing to betray you (kinda) by being with your best mate, then who know... (read in full...)

Is my wife being honest about going through with a threesome?

Q.   Is my wife being honest about going through with a threesome? I have had the fantasy of seeing my wife with another man for 2-years now. I have asked her about it and she always said no. I make little comments and suggestions all the time. Finall...

A.   31 August 2007: i think you were evil and tbh a horribly lame excuse for a human being. you put your own wishes before hers and if you cared for her at all then you wouldve stopped everything the moment you saw her, the woman you "love" looking like she was abou... (read in full...)

We never seem to be alone to try to have sex together.

Q.   I really want to have sex with my boyfriend and he says he wants to as well but we never have a place to do it because there are people always in my house and his so we can never be alone and also I wouldn't know what would start us off, would it be ...

A.   31 August 2007: don't neccessarily listen to all the people saying youre too young. you and only you know when youre ready to have sex and a bunch of strangers on the internet don't even know you so have not much right to tell you whether youre old enough or matur... (read in full...)

I'm a girl and worried about what to do during my first time.

Q.   what does the girl do in sex? i am a virgin but am thinking about having sex woth my bf of 15 months. We are both virgins so he's not sure either but what does the girl do in sex?? do i jst lay there or do i hav to move or what? obviously i am going ...

A.   31 August 2007: yo well like what the other person said, you wanna get your condoms sorted out before hand but its real good that youve bin with him for 15 months n that. anyways well theres no like "rule" on what position to go in for the first time yeah but t... (read in full...)

I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?

Q.   ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...

A.   31 August 2007: hey im the same. if i were you, do it as pasrt of foreplay, instead of on its own. that way, he will enjoy it but you dont have the pressure of trying to make him orgasm. also research it on the internet if you wanna that might help.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend told me he was a virgin, But he's not! Its really upset me that he's been with someone before me. Is this normal?

Q.   *sigh* I've just found out that my BF, who I thought was a virgin, isn't a virgin at all. Turns out that one time when he was drunk, he had sex with a girl he didn't, and still doesn't, know. He can't remember it, but TWO different people...

A.   31 August 2007: i think oyuneed to tihnk about how maybe you think you own him? do you think you own him and he shouldnt be with anyone except you? do you think you have rights over him? sorry if that sounds out of order but youve gotta ask yourself those q... (read in full...)

I've lost a lot of weight which is good, but my cleavage went with it! Help!

Q.   About a year ago I lost 25 lbs.through a great program. Unfortunately my boobs also got smaller, which is to be expected I suppose, but even now that my weight has stablized and I haven't lost any more (In fact I've gained back 10 lbs.) but my boobs ...

A.   31 August 2007: i reckon apart from surgery theres not much you can do apart from padded push up bars if you want, i dont reckon breast pumps or anything like that work.sorry... (read in full...)

I'm still worried I could be pregant!

Q.   Hi everyone, Well about 3 days ago i lost my virginity and he was protected , we had sex for about 30 mins , but we had to discontinue because my mom came home . so he came over the next day and we had sex once again but unprotected this time ,ye...

A.   31 August 2007: even if he didn't cum i still reckon you should get yourself some emergency contraception. if i ever have unprotected sex even if its just for like 3 minutes i make sure i go get the morning after pill just in case. right you can take the morn... (read in full...)

My 30 year old boyfriend can sometimes be immature... any tips?

Q.   My boyfriend is 30 and I am 35. We have been together about 18 months. I am concerned because he is a very different person around his friends than he is with me. I know that we are all slightly different but he seems to use different language ...

A.   26 August 2007: My boyfriend immature as f**k and i love him for it. we always have a giggle and laugh about stupid things and act like a pair of kids. the important thing is if he can be mature when he needs to be.... (read in full...)

I want to rock his world.

Q.   okay so I'm 18 and Ive been with my share of guys not a lot but my boyfriend is 16 and has only been with like 7 girls. hes good in bed but not that experienced with positions. on the other hand I'm known for being slightly kinky although i never do ...

A.   26 August 2007: hey like i have the same problem of wanting to be amazing yeah? just bite the bullet k? whatever you do he'll enjoy it ask him what he likes or when youre doing somehing say "is that ok?" , "is that good?" good luck and all the best... (read in full...)

I think I am ready to lose my virginity

Q.   hi everyone. i kinda need help. you c im a virgin and i think im ready to lose it to this guy i know. i mean like he is soo sweet nd he makes me feel sooo good inside. but the thing is hes not a virgin. we talk about the subject "sex" when we r on ...

A.   26 August 2007: If you want to have sex and you feel ready to, then have sex! the most important thing is tho that youre properly protected ok? so use protection !... (read in full...)

I still love my ex and slept with him but he has a girlfriend, what shall i do?

Q.   im in love with my ex and i slept with him last week but he has a girlfriend wot shall i do...

A.   26 August 2007: I reckon hes using you for sex because he knows you still love him and he thinks he can get stuff frm you for free, because your be hoping it'll turn into something more.... (read in full...)

I have a problem with the "lower area". Do you think she'll be freaked out?

Q.   Alright I'm wondering if this is enough to weird a girl out.. and it willsound a bit gross, but w/e. so here goes... I had a whitehead on the base of my penis, in other words, its basically a white bump, its not massive, but is definatley noticabl...

A.   22 August 2007: you say you dont want a doctor looking at your "manbits" yeah what would you prefer, him looking at it as part of his job, having seen loads of things like it beofre, or her down there looking at you with a wtf look on her face and asking you "um ... (read in full...)

I have been in a relationship for 7 years now with a married man with wife and three kids.

Q.   Hello, hope all of you are doing well with god's blessings upon us every day. My question is I have been in a relationship for 7 years now with a married man with wife and three kids. I am a moslem am not growing younger, he is a roman catholic p...

A.   22 August 2007: stop being a marriage wrecker and get out of the relationship, and also it seems hypocritical to me starting your message about adultery with "gods blessing upon us", which god condones adultery?... (read in full...)

I decided I go 'scold' my ex in revenge. But not knowingly, I realised, I've been talking to his mother and she now wants me to see her on Friday and she will go see the principal about this matter.

Q.   Okay, this is kinda following up from my last question. I told that classmate whom I like how I feel. But in return I got rejected but managed to still remain friends. However, I'm not really convinced. Sometimes, I do feel that he looks at me. Or ...

A.   22 August 2007: dont worry. it seems so massively important now but its not the be all and end all. she shouldnt have been on his msn or whatever anyway shes probably just threatening about the principal but if she does, just explain as simply as possible wha... (read in full...)

How can I learn to like giving blow jobs and how can I develop a healthy libido again?

Q.   I am 18 and I have been married for a little more than a year. We have a baby boy who is almost one years old. I got pregnant the first time I had sex and I think that maybe that really damaged my libido. It's really hard for me to get in the ...

A.   22 August 2007: hey dont worry. there are some girls, somwhere, who enjoy giving head yeah, most of the rest of us, like almost every girl i know, fucking hates it. ewven tho we're happy to receive head, hypocrites aint we?! but thats not the point. you dont... (read in full...)

Ok, I am not 10-12, I am 26 years old. But I still need help with my partner cumming too fast!

Q.   Ok yesterday i wrote this 2 get advice i put anonymous but now ima put it so yall can see.. ne ways i am not 10-12 i am a 26 year old young lady.. tell me how i can edit my page.. thanx! And still do send me ur advice! Well..... this quest...

A.   21 August 2007: try not to like massively overstimulate him during sex yeah, if you do things ike scratching his back or biting his neck or whatever he'll just get more excited and cum quicker. if all else fails get him to finish you off "manually"... (read in full...)

I don't want to break his heart but I also don't want to have this feeling of regret.

Q.   It's been about 3 months now since I've been going out with my boyfriend, and I am starting to regret it. I love him and everything but the only problem is that I am starting to have feelings for my other friend. My boyfriend is one of the sweet...

A.   12 August 2007: it's human to doubt things yeah, but all i can say is dont do anything til your absolutely sure u dont wanna lose a secure relationship 4 the chance of something else which might not even happen.... (read in full...)

How do i slim down my puffy cheeks?

Q.   how do i slim down my puffy cheeks? are there any certain foods i should eat or drink to make it slim down?...

A.   12 August 2007: are you sure theyre not just genetically like that?... (read in full...)

My daughter is going out with other men while I look after her baby!

Q.   My daughter is in a relationship and has a baby, recently my other daughter told me she is going out with other men and whilst I have the baby too, and I thought she was out with a girlfriend, what shall I say or do about this? Her partner is a ...

A.   12 August 2007: if you look after your daughters kid it shouldnt be with strings attached, theoretically she should be allowed to do whatever she likes with her free time, but if shes cheating and you know about it, youve gotta act, talk to her find out if its t... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have had an on/off relationship for almost a year, and when things are good, they're REALLY great and when they're bad; they're terrible.

Q.   I need help. The problem is kinda childish, but I just don't know what to do and it's hard to have an objective view of a situation when you're involved. My boyfriend and I have had an on/off relationship for almost a year, and when things are ...

A.   12 August 2007: work out whether the really goods are good enough to outweigh the really bads. and dont worry because whatever happens you wont put up him if he's making you feel real bad for too long, so eventually itll get sorted. and if hes like possessive ... (read in full...)

I couldn't... but could she?

Q.   i had sex with my girlfriend last night.i was drunk so i couldnt feel anything, but she was sober.do you think she felt anything?...

A.   12 August 2007: ask her.... (read in full...)

He's not initiated sex and when I have, he's made excuses!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for a few months (soon to others, maybe) but he has not initiated sex, and when I have, his excuse one time was he forgot the protection? does he like me?...

A.   12 August 2007: the easy way to find out is to make a sitatuion where there are no excuses, like you have the protection you're home alone and there's not likely to be anyone interrupting soon. but if you do that yeah he might feel well trapped in the sita... (read in full...)

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