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writes:what does it mean when a guy says that we can see each other when our schedules allows?Just wondering because I was dating this guy but somehow I think he only wanted me for sex. Like, he would call me Saturday and ask if we could go movies or something, but then Sunday, he would totally ignore me, no call, no text, nothing. He never asked me in advance if I wanted to do something in the weekend.I'm new to the dating because I was married for 20 years. So just getting back into itWell, when I had enough of that situation, I asked why he didn't call and he said, "you have kids", I figured that If you had time, you would let me know" I figured we were having a good time when our schedules allowed." This bothered me because I felt as if he only called me when he felt like it. I stopped talking to him after he told me this. But I really like him a lot, not sure why, bcause seems he doesn't like me at allWhy would a guy treat a woman like this?Should I let him go?
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reader, la negra +, writes (27 April 2011):
Let him go. There are plenty of men out there that aren't for playing games like he is, trust me. And the way he responded to not calling you, he sounds like a jerk. Instead of throwing the fact that you have kids in your face, he should be seeing how his schedule best works for yours since you have kids. It sounds like he just wants sex when he wants it. He's not expressing feelings of I really like you and want to take things slow, he is basically saying, let's see each other when we see each other, but I have to ask if all dates end in sex or seems like that's where it's headed when you two are together then that is all he wants and his as needs to be dumped.effective.immediately.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 It means he is afraid of intruding your life, causing inconvenience. I've met many men, online and real life. I had never been played with. He's probably afraid of bothering you but he didn't know his silence bothered you that much. He called you Saturday. I don't know what your response was but I guess it's too late to arrange babysitting and he can't just tell you to get a babysitter. Babysitting costs me 100 a month. I think it's worth it either you are single or married. You need time alone too. You can never know what someone is thinking until you talk to them. When you stopped talking to him he probably feels you didn't like him anymore so don't expect him to be the one to call you first.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 Well a relationship works both ways, did you contact him at all to meet up? both people should make an effort. maybe he was only after you for a bit of fun, or maybe he actually does like you but he feels you dont feel the same and he wants you to make some of the effort to prove you like him two. Guys can be as over sensitive as woman. Show him you care if you do and see how it goes. You need to make as much effort and contact as he does if this is going to work!!!
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