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writes:I met this guy a month in a half ago, and we have been hanging out since then. At first it was a really nice date, we did things together and then at the end we made out. We have been going to this park and hooking up, and he told me he liked me. So i started coming over to his house like 2-3 times a week...we tried to watch movies but we always end up hooking up and even had sex twice. We're both 18. One day my friend told me she saw hm at a party and she asked him about me...and he said "how would i know...we never hang out." So i confronted him about it and said we should just stay friends because i don't know if he doesn't want people to know about us or what and all we have been doing is hooking up, we never go anywhere. And i am not his booty call. But somehow he convinced me that he just wasn't sure if he liked me so he was kinda shy about it that's why he said that. And he is not using me. He just needs some time to ask me to be his gf.But now i am really realizing that if he really liked me it would not take him a month in a half to still wanting some time. I really don't know if he is just using me or what. He says he likes me and i met his dad. And he doesn't want me to hang out with other guys and gets jealous, and when i asked him "what are we?"...he said "right now we're friends, but we're waiting to see what happens." When i texted him saying "i miss you"...he replied with a sexual comment and not i miss you back. And when we get into an argument he always says he doesn't want a gf who argues. Is he really just using me and i should end this...or what should i do?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 best of luck hun! and good for you!!!
keep us updated :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys so much for your advice!!! I appreciate it a lot. I was really lost. He makes it seem like its nothing and i should stop bitching him out about it cause I've tried to talk to him about it. Ans its so hard because i like him. But i really don't want to get any lower than this. I'm gonna try to end it for god knows what time once and for all.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (16 July 2009):
DEFINATELY end it!!!
he is using you he gets jealous with you around other guys because he thinks "no!! i saw her first she's mine i have sex with her when i want"
he's afraid that if you get with another guy that's it he can't just call you up to have sex with you.
that's all he wants you for he's having you as a friends with benefits without attachment of relationship.
but he knows you like him so he'll keep spilling a pretty story about he likes you but then he's not sure he wants to wait and see where it goes.
it's bullshit!
he's playing you big time! he just wants you for his own needs until he finds a girl he ACTUALLY wants to be with and until then he'll have you for his pleasure and own fun.
he wants to get a girlfriend before you get a boyfriend because once you got a guy that's it off limits to him! no more randomly coming around to hooking up. but if he gets a girl then its bye bye to you and he won't care because he'll have someone else to do what you did for him but maybe in a relationship with her.
just do yourself a huge favor and get out of there pronto! dent his ego make him feel really small! show him he cannot play you like that and that you can get someone who actually wants to be in a relationship with you!!
hope this helps hun =)
keep us updated!
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, AngellicaWaters +, writes (16 July 2009):
 This guy just isn't interested in you. Unfortunately your actions led to him treating you this way. If you are looking for more than just hooking up or making out, then you need to make a man earn being with you. It was too easy for him and because of that, it's become a situation where you give him what he wants (sex) and you don't get what you want (love, respect, a relationship). You have to act in accord with what you want in order to get it. In order to get a relationship, you have to treat yourself and intimacy (sex) with you as if it's a prize to be earned. If a man will not take a while to get to know you and form an attachment to you, you should not have sex with him unless you expect for it to turn into a causual and unfulfilling situation like this is. You deserve better than this, you should just move on, keep your goals in mind for the next man you meet and match your actions to your goals. Once you have this part of relationships down, it will get easier to find men of better quality. A quality man will work to earn you.
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