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41-50,
*ardia
writes:We've been together about 6 months. We had a real fairy tale, firey start! Over time I've noticed he doesn't hang on me like he used to (and I crave that), he doesn't return texts as much, he never even actually said happy birthday to me (w/no good excuse for not remembering)...On the other hand, when I say "We have to talk" about something (there have been a few things to discuss), he suddenly sends panicky texts, as though he's afraid I'm going to break this off. Does he really still want this relationship?
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reader, Lulu_lol +, writes (3 March 2011):
 Hmm...maybe he's just dumb.
Mabye not.
Did you tell him that you felt hurt that he forgot your b'day? What did he say...did he do anything to make it up to you?
Look...the honeymoon period never lasts forever...you have to have realistic expectations. But he also needs to know what you want from him...so talk it over a cup of coffee; sort out your feelings - i'm sure things will be fine.
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reader, bardia +, writes (3 March 2011):
bardia is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks! That makes me feel a little better. As for the 'hanging' bit, this is my 1st real relationship (and it's unusual for my age--over 30) and his who-knows-how-many and I really just enjoy the physical attention (even just holding hands or sitting close). I think you're spot on with your insight...guess I just need to relax...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): To be honest, from what you have written, i don't see any real cause for concern. It's pretty natural for things to slow down a bit after the "honey moon" period is over.
Forgetting your Birthday is pretty hurtful but a lot of guys can be rubbish at remembering things like that.
I think he does want to be with you but you need to realise that relationships never stay the same as they were at the beginning.
You say you "crave" him "hanging on you". Why is that? It may be that you crave attention a bit too much and as soon as you don't get enough you panic that he doesn't want you anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): Yes, he has gotten comfortable and lazy but that it very, very normal for guys.First - NEVER say "we need to talk"Second - tell him "I really enjoy it when you show me affection, send me txts and give me daily attention." Keep it positive and you'll see a BIG difference in the way he responds to you.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): i think hes just getting comfortable in your relationship, like relaxed around you and i wouldn't jump to conclusions about anything else. plan some nights out with him, like to the movies or in the summer a day at the beach, if youre worried he's getting bored. hope this helps.
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