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anonymous
writes:I have recently broke up with my son's father. He is 31 and I amd 23. I am really starting to see signs of what I think are signs of a sociopath. At first he was very charming and seemed like he had himself together, then after I became pregnant he started acting like I was beneath him, kicking me out of our apartment in the middle of the night b/c of stupid arguements. He would never apologize first, just give me silent treatment for days until I begged for us to talk. Next he would get violent, not daily just maybe here and there, like twice a month, if that. He wouldn't be really violent. It would start with him exploding if I stood up for myself, then lead to a hard push, hair pulling or a threat. He does drink daily but has a high tolerance so I don't think this contributes to his irrational behavior. I started noticing he is very manipulative to others, seems to have no consience and always seems to have to prove himself by acting macho. One minute he is quite and seems fine, then the littlest thing could set him off and he would snap verbally. He doesn't seem to have social problems with others if he has known them for a while, but he was very quite around my family. I couldn't help but feel like his feelings for me weren't genuwine, sort of a vibe I just got. Other signs I see now that I look back are he never accepts the blame and has no remorse when we argue. He doesn't really know how to express his feelings or show love but he says its b/c his mom didn't bring him up like that. To sum this up things always have to be his way or the highway. He didn't respect my feelings when I told him he was hurting me, he would simply say it was my fault. He lies with no problem, doesnt want to work, just run the streets and pursue illegal ways of maikng money. He is irresponsible, hostile, has shallow emotions and always paranoid. Now our son is 6 months and since were not together he completely cut me off financially and has only see his son 3 times in 3 months. Even this he blames on me and seems to cause arguements so that he has an excuse not to call for days or weeks at a time. Is he just a immature deadbeat dad or are these signs of a sociopath? Please send some light, I am lost and don't know what to do.
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (12 October 2007):
 NPD.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Maybe, maybe not. Go to this site. You may be amazed to find others have been living with the same kind of person. If so, your feelings will be validated.http://personalitydisorders.suite101.com/discussion.cfm/1308/111-120
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reader, Fade878  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Get some support via counselling. This way you get to talk it all out as a means to work towards healing. You dont' feel alone. You get to excercise the pain and betrayal with someone who is skilled in listening, supporting, and who will give you some skills to prevent from falling for such a cold hearted male.
There is a post somewhere that has a "list" of identifiers on here somewhere.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Mandy 7 has said it all babe he is a manipulative bully and with a young baby to look after you certainly do not need someone like that around you both, i'm not saying it will be easy but hopefully you have plenty of friends and family around you to help you out and i wish you both all the best.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): Hunny,
You dont want this man in your life, Its good that you have broken up before your son starts seeing these things, My ex husband was like this he did have serious mental issues..
Does he take drugs as well as drink?
About if he is a deadbeat dad hunny he is totally blind to the fact he has a family, I dont get child support from my ex and have never wanted it as long as he stays away from me and my daughter then thats fine with me, And I think you should feel the same everything you have mentioned is a huge warning sign to get away and keep away so you and your son are safe love PLEASE TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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