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writes:hi there,I met a guy at a friends country house wkd away and we just clicked and hit it off and were inseparable for most of the wkd.We did not exchange numbers as we both left at different times, but as soon as I returned from the wkd he had already sent me a fbook message with his number etc as we had met before (only briefly)and were already friends on there. I waited until the next day to respond and already had a text from him first thing in the morning as he had got my number from a friend! so he really went out of his way!Couple of days later he asked me on a saturday date which we went on and had a great time we also went for breakfast and spent the rest of sunday together, Yes he stayed but that had already happened at the wkd away, and he was not a stranger (as I said before).Been on quite a few dates and they have all been really good, he keeps in contact a lot and always instigates the convo. we are going on holiday separately which we booked before we met and his contact has not been so frequent leading up to the holiday. I am also going away when he gets back. The last time I text him he did not respond to one of my questions (was not really anything important) he was off on holiday the next day!I also moved house recently and I guess we have only been seeing each other a month but I was a bit disappointed he didn't offer to help, but I didn't want to ask as I am quite independant and I don't want it to come across as me needing him so early on!Worried he is going off me? :-S thanks
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 July 2012):
 you both have a lot going on. I'd give it time and see what happens...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012): I wouldn't be worried. You both have separate holidays, once that is out of the way maybe you can meet up on a more regular basis. Keep it light and friendly for now. Let it develop over the summer. If, after some months, things aren't moving in a direction you would like, then will be the time to judge if this is a relationship in the making or not.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (4 July 2012):
 I think it's too early to say if he's going off you. Things seem to be going very well but you both have stuff going on, holidays and you moving and during these times of high activity communication can take a bit of a battering!!
As to why he didn't offer to help you move, well who knows, maybe he thinks it's too soon to be hands on in your life or maybe he's a bit of a lazy bum and didn't want to over commit himself, could be several things.
At this early stage, I think it's important to be upbeat, give eachother a chance to show true personalities (which happens after a month for most) and try not to nit pick and find fault (cos we all know that's a killer).
Really you are both at the 'finding out' stage, it's too early for commitment or expactations, this is the time to chill and have fun.
Enjoy your holiday, aim to maintain contact whilst your away, few texts, maybe a postcard or e-mail but stay positive, carefree and fun because that will keep him guessing.
Hopefully when your both back on terra firma and you are settled in your new home, maybe things will move to the next level if it's a true match.
Good luck xxx
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 July 2012):
 You're reading WAY too much into this. If one of my friends asks a meaningless question at the end of the text I take it to be as good as saying bye and leave it at that.
Moving is not something you do with someone you don't know. It's very personal, going through every little piece of someone's stuff, don't you think? If you didn't ask him to help, he probably would have assumed you didn't want someone you don't know well rummaging in your stuff. Take a few deep breaths and wait for him to come back from holiday or wait from him to contact you before freaking out.
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