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writes:Okay so I meant this guy through a friend of mine and ever since then we do everything together. We go to parties, and we just spend a lot of time together and I have started to fall for him because he would always tell me I love you or act really gay around me so I decided to tell him that I was gay he took it okay he didn't have a problem with it at all. He just said he was straight, but around me he acts gay and flirts. Now he is always txting me and his txt are flirtatious. I always reply back by saying whats up pretty eyes (he has green eyes). And it doesn't seem to bother him that I do that, he knows how I feel about him.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (18 June 2011):
 i had a friend who was always giving me body language that was suggestive. it led nowhere as he made it clear he was straight but gained a lot of satisfaction from knowing i fancied him. just be warned some people will feed their ego any way they can.
be careful but lay all your cards out and if he isn't interested you have your answer and you can move on in peace.
time wasters are a bad thing for gays as gays have less opportunities within society for love from a purely statistical point of view than straight men and women. that is why so many gays can target men aggressively in clubs.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (18 June 2011):
i had a friend who was always giving me body language that was suggestive. it led nowhere as he made it clear he was straight but gained a lot of satisfaction from knowing i fancied him. just be warned some people will feed their ego any way they can.
be careful but lay all your cards out and if he isn't interested you have your answer and you can move on in peace.
time wasters are a bad thing for gays as gays have less opportunities within society for love from a purely statistical point of view than straight men and women. that is why so many gays can target men aggressively in clubs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2011): That's easy, just be straight forward, he already knows you're gay so you're half way there. Tell him that you understand he's straight, but has he ever though of being with a guy. Does he have a girlfriend by the way? Let him know that his texts and mannerism around you has given you an impression of him. DO NOT SAY YOU LIKE HIM, right out of the bag, it may or may not freak him out. Just try to "feel" him out for a bit. If I was that guy I wouldn't want to bring up a conversation of possibly liking you, it would be weird for me...BUT, I wouldn't mind if YOU brought it up, i'd be more eager to talk about it if I could blame you as the source of the question instead of me. You're already comfortable (i assume) with being gay, he says he is straight but may be realizing he is gay or bi or whatever, ask him what his thought are about gays and what-not in a more in depth way, let him open up about how he may feel. Also, as a gay guy you have the privilege to flirt with him a bit more right! You could say something like. "Wow, if only you weren't straight..." or "Cute guys like you always do stuff like that...". You may be surprised how he responds if you're the one to introduce the discussion.
Best of luck!
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (10 June 2011):
 MANY who aren't ready to come out are of this type. They say they are straight and you just KNOW they are gay. Chances are high that he is at least BI, if not totally gay. Just be patient if you can... and as the previous poster states... be ready for any devastating news (like he starts going out with some girl).
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): I've been in a similar situation - i fell for my gay best friend who told me he was gay but acted straight around me! Lol, it's a very confusing situation so know how you feel. But the thing is, actions speak louder than words. This guy does seem to be gay and into you, but is he willing to take that step to have something with you? And how long are you willing to wait for it to happen? If he's telling you he's straight but he's actually acting gay, then something's not right - which of those things can you trust as THE truth? Unfortunately you can't decide what he should do in this situation, but just guard your heart because the last thing you'd want is to date only to have him change his mind again later. xx
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