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writes:Okay I think I am in love with a guy thats 10 years older then me. I am 18 and he is 28. (Oh and before you jump to any conclusions, you should know that I am very mature for my age. I already got my BS in biology and currently I am applying to medical school)We were hanging out for about 2 months as friends. He took me out various times, and it felt like we were dating minus the physical component. I had to move for 3 1/2 months back home to another state far away where my sesources are to study and take mt MCAT. The day I told him I was leaving, was also the day that we addmitted to each other that we liked each other. He rufused to kiss me because he felt I was to young and yet he told me maybe one day... When I moved I had talked myself into believeing that he did not really care about me and that I would get over him in a couple of weeks. well.. I found out he really does care about me and that maybe when I move back we can get together. At this point I have been gone for almost 2 monthes and I still care about him. We had VERY light contact the first six weeks through texting and facebook, because he thought I was over him. And he called me twice in the last couple weeks and we had very good conversations. I don't know what to do though. Our conversations have been casual with neither of us talking about getting together. Now its been a week since our last conversation. If he does not call me soon, am I supposed to call him? Does he expect me to make a move since he initiated the last two? And when we talk should I tell him how I feel? Should I put myself out there and chance getting hurt now? Or wait till I move back in 6 weeks?
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reader, lil_g +, writes (5 May 2010):
I dont think he's necessarily expecting you to make a move. I think it's more like he doesn't want to be to forward or anything like that. Maybe you should mention it at a time that feels right. And as far as telling him how you feel, just be careful. Me, i would wait and tell him in person so i can look him in the eye and see his reaction. But some people would rather do it over the phone, if you're shy about expressing yourself...I don't know how strong you're feelings are for him, but be careful how much you tell him, telling too much makes it easier for him to take advantage of your felings. I once told a guy that i was in love with him, the first guy i ever truely loved and would do anything for him. After i told him that, he started playing with my head and my heart telling me if i loved him then i would sleep with his homies and all kinds of stuff (i didn't do it though, i haven't talked to him since he got me drunk & told his homie that he could have me/rape me for $30). So, just be careful
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 I wouldn't call him. I would wait till he calls me then try to direct the conversation towards the "getting together talk". Don't ask him out directly, but do try to suggest that you'd like to go out with him again...something like that, then hopefully he'll get the idea.
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