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Is he a control freak???

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Question - (13 September 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 14 September 2010)
A female United States age , *ugar37us writes:

I have been married for 25 years and my husband leaves all the time.. he has went for like 9 years and this time 6 years before leaving then when he starts it he keeps at it.. they say he used to run off from his parents when he was a boy and go to his sisters.. when he was in his early 20's he was in the army for 5 years and then went awol.... well he stays gone for days or weeks then he drives by our house or parks out from it where our family and friends can see and if he catches me going to town or doctor etc he follows me and he has kept it up and so i divorced him and we were seperated for around 2 months and he wanted to come home..

He said his sister wanted to fix him up and i found where he didn't close his post office box and has signed up for internet dates... he left his prized computer is how i found it... he had been gone a week when this guy called and said he heard i was single and wanted to go out for fun.. first he said his name was something then when i said what did you say your name was again he changed it and i said i thought you said your name was so and so and he said he went by the first at work and the other at home.. so i figured my run off man had put him up to call..

So do you think he will want to come back or will he start dating someone else... and he left without me knowing like the old way the time before we were friendly so he could see our great niece and he helped on the bills this time he snuck out and didn't help on the bills... he has went for 9 years and the last time 6 years before he started leaving then when he starts it he does it on and off.. and when he left he put my copy of the divorce papers on top of a chair in the living room so i'd find them..... help..... thanks

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2010):

Why would you even consider being together with a man like that? Why do women put up with so much cr** from men? Darling, the only honest advice I can give you, is you should have dumped this man decades ago. Seriously.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (13 September 2010):

Honeypie agony auntHonestly, I think I would stay divorced and set up visitations (if you have younger kids) for him to see his children and then.... I would start living life. You know what will happen if you take him back. He will at some point leave again. His track record speaks for itself.

Start to build your life as it he fell of the planet. Make sure you can pay all your own bills. Pack all HIS stuff up and either drop it off at his sisters house or tell him to come pick it up.

Personally, there is no way I could stay married to such a yo-yo. How many times have you put your life on hold for him? Is it making you happy? At all?

I'm sorry, but he seems like a loser.

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