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writes:is 15 too young to fall in love? and to find the one you wanna spend the rest of your life with?..i know it would take lots of work and stuff but if you love the person you'll go through it all. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lames +, writes (22 February 2010):
I am 15, and have fallen in love with a girl I have known almost all of my life. We have not been dating for long at all, but I know what I feel and I know that it is love and no one can possibly tell me that it's not. Only you can decide if you are in love. I don't know where my story will take me, it certainly looks intimidating. But I can now say that you are never too young to fall in love. I can only hope and do my best as we "go through it all" :)
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reader, Mariya Petrova  +, writes (8 October 2009):
You are not too young am 12 and trust me I really didi fall in love its my first love but i broke up with him and 2 years later i'm still heartbroken...
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reader, jake love +, writes (30 July 2008):
as a guy who has been in love with the same girl sence he was 14, i say age dosnt matter, it all depends on how much you really love that person. yea people do change but when you find true love you can tell. and when you find the person you wan to spend the rest of your life with you want to begin the rest of your life right then. so if your afraid you are to young. dont be just love that person with all of your heart and if they do the same you will be together forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): I've seen several high school relationships make it all the way to their mid-20s and getting married. But a lot fewer of them were still together by their early 30s.
14-17 is just not old enough to make an informed decision at all. (Even low 20s is risky a lot of times.) Your feelings are probably very real in your teens, but your judgement is not developed & experienced enough to manage the feelings well. Uninformed decisions don't always turn out to be wrong, but the odds are worse. A hell of a lot worse.
There's a ton of growing up between 15 and 25. You might find the perfect person for you when you're 15, but the problem is that you're not going to stay 15 forever.
Enjoy what you've got, but don't start mapping out your whole life around a teenage relationship. Anything before your early 20s is very liable to be outgrown. Nobody ever thinks they'll outgrow someone else at the beginning, but a lot of times it really does happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): I guess you could fall in love at that age. And I guess it could last forever but not in the way that you think. I really liked this boy I dated when I was in high school. I was 16 or 17. We were good friends and then dated for a few months. Then he ended up cheating on me (that's how young boys are.) So obviously I broke up with him.
But, even as an adult (I am 27 now), I never forgot him and always wondered about him. Point is that no matter how many guys I met since him, or how many times I fell inlove, somehow he would always come back to my mind. It didn't help that I saw him on myspace and he still looks drop dead gorgeous and super kool, even after all these years. Doesn't matter how much time passes or what happened between you that it didn't work out, but some guys you just never forget. They had something about them that was irreplaceable. And incredibly enough, there have been a few boys in my past who have felt that same way about me. That's life.
But unfortunately, most men (and even girls) aren't ready to settle down till much much later in life because they need to go through alot of experiences and lessons before they feel the urge to settle down. But just because it doesn't work out with someone at the age of 15 doesn't mean that you aren't going to have a huge impact on their lives, or they on your life, and it could maybe even work out later on when you are both older and more mature.
But if you are expecting to have something close to like a marriage, or even that it would lead up to that, at your age...I think you are setting yourself up for disappointment. When I was your age my parents would always tell me "Go out. Have fun. Don't take boys too seriously. You are young. Just have fun." And they were right. You need to just have fun and enjoy your youth.
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 My daughter fell in love with her now husband when she was about 14....we'd known the family since she was 8.
I had to accept him as her boyfriend otherwise she would never have forgiven me, plus she would have carried on seeing him behind my back, and I hate deceit.
I did things behind my parent's backs when I was her age, and swore I would never allow my kids to do it to me.
Accepting him into our family was the best thing I ever did. It drew me and her closer together too.
They've been married for almost 10 years now, they're extremely happy and have 3 lovely boys. Maybe my daughter was one of the lucky ones, I don't know.
So my answer to your question is no, 15 is not too young. But please do take time to get to know eachother, take things easy, go slow, grow and learn to respect, trust and love eachother.
Best wishes to you and good luck for the future.
BigSis
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reader, GeorgiaGirl84 +, writes (1 July 2008):
 I don't believe 15 is too young to fall in love. That was how old I was the first time I fell in love. It lasted almost 8 years and I have no regrets. All relationships take work, but it's especially hard when you're younger. You'll both go through changes and if you don't grow together, you'll grow apart. Some people have the drive and determination to make it work. It all depends on the individual couple.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 I agree that it's too early at 15 to be thinking so far ahead. You may indeed find your lifelong companion at 15, but you won't be in a position to really truly know for sure for a few years yet. At 15, your own ideas will change as you grow older, and so will the ideas of the person you love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): i dont think so, my parents started dating when they were 15, and they said it was love at first sight. and they've been together for 30 years. i say it can happen
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reader, scorpion queen +, writes (1 July 2008):
I think everyone knows when they fall in love. I don't believe there is a right or a wrong time just when your heart feels something it never felt before you know it. However at 15 I can't imagine you having these feelings often so I would say yes too young to fall in love. That's not to say you don't have strong feelings and really like this person but trust me in 10 years you will probably forget their name. Don't rush anything take your time and date be a teenager and get to know your life before you involve love the world has so much to offer.
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reader, Tremor +, writes (1 July 2008):
 A lot of people will say that it is too young, and this is primarily because people change a lot through their teenage years - so it's quite possible that the person you love now will not be the same person in five or ten years time.
Don't go thinking about who you'll be spending your life with just yet - you're atill very young, so just enjoy your youth for the time being. The rest of your life will usually take care of itself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): I fell in love at 15. Real never though it would end love. I'm 19 and our relationship is in the process of ending. My only warning is that when a man gets out of high school he will change. It can be good or bad. In my case it was bad. My guy was a dream come true until he graduated and when responsibility kicked in and stress got high I was the one he would take it out on. First by ignoring me, then yelling at me, and finally hitting me. The same man that for almost two years never once raised his voice to me.
My advice is if you think you are inlove and he loves you too go for it. Even though in the end my relationship isn't working I would never change the good moments and I now know what I want out of a man. Love is work but it is worth it will the right person. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): Yes, 15 is too young. No further explanation is required than look at the statistics..
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reader, no_issues +, writes (1 July 2008):
 A certain age being too young to fall in love is like a certain foolhardy action being too stupid to cause injury. While a theoretical lower limit may exist, it's safe to assume that if you can ask the question, then no, it's not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): I don't think you're too young to fall in love. I know many adults will say so but I happen to know many couples who started dating and had kids when they were 14, 15, and 16 and are still hapily married at age 50. It all just depends on whether you are dedicated. Many young people think they know their feelings and then change when they become older. After all you and your personality generally don't stop going through changes til you're at least 21, more often about 25.
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