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writes:over and over she tried and over and over i lied and over and over she cried.it was 5 years we were together i was almost never at our apt. i do drugs and sell them to. I never let her see me on them. I lied to stay away and she also loaned me money. she got used to me not being around. she told it was over. i don't see other girls. i work hard.i am the main manger of a big comp. our talks just got smaller and smaller. what can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): I would suggest that you consider if you are really ready or someone who is able to have a proper loving relationship. She is obviously tired of your problems, and rightly so.You are now at a crossroads in your life, your priority should be to get your lying and drug problems under control. It is not fair that you still want her knowing what you have put her through, without firstly sorting yourself out.Get your act together and start to grow up into something worthy of a decent relationship. People can only put up with so much, they then call it quits as they give up. If your relationship with her is to be something which can be rescued, you need to firstly work on yourself and show her that you are trying to be a better man. At the moment she cannot see you in any different light as you were previously. Give her time space and respect. Get help and be proactive in solving all the bad choices you have previously made. Think about what you want to be from now on, and DO IT. Stop feeling sorry for yourself at the moment and move into a more constructive phase in your life now. Ask yourself if, you would take you back???? She hung around for a while, she has had enough at the moment and wants to be without the same man who has caused alot of problems presumably for her.Get yourself in a headspace which is about improving your life. Get the help you need and be a more positive influence on YOURSELF. If she is then still around, she will see that you mean what you say.People are judged by the actions they take. The actions of your past are dictating to how she see you in her life. To change her opinion of you, you firstly need to change your behaviour and actions. You need space and time to sort yourself out and she needs to not have the stress in her life which you have caused.I really hope you try hard to get yourself sorted. Not for her but for you. This is your chance to make a better life for anyone who cares about being with you. Good luck.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 have you got a problem with meth? specifying what drug makes your message(which seems to lack disclosure of certain things you know but are maybe embarassed to admit) easier to answer. The answer is i'm guessing that she has had more than enough and you want a quick fix...there is none and you need to move on as you have probably caused enough damage and used her to the point of saturation, find someone to share your lifestyle with or change your lifestyle and setle down. better forget this relationship?-it is lost
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 You should ask her. You broke her heart. If you want her back , then you need to really listen to her.
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