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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:This isn't a relationship question but a question about body image and confidence. Through most of my teenage life I had a big weight problem and was very heavy most of those years. My stomach has always been big. When I was only 20 I got pregnant with my beautiful son. I got the worst stretch marks that I've ever seen, my belly is now saggy as well as my boobs. I know this is normal but upsetting. I am now 23, and the father of my child and I are no longer together. I want to start dating but I know my issues with my body are going to interfere with that. I am not happy or confident with my body which is really hard to deal with. But how can I be confident and happy when my body looks the way it does? Advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2015): If the sag is because the skin is stretched by stret h marks cream or excercise won't help that unfortunately . I've had four children and seen more doctors and specialists than you can poke a stick at for this issue . I know that many people will come on here ( usually without kids or those falsely believing that the creams they used made their stretch marks fade ) but stretch marks fade on their own regardless . It's the elasticity that cannot be repaired because the actual fibres of elastin in the slim have been physically seperated . In the early first few weeks creams may help reduce appearance more quickly but can't reduce excess skin !Once excess skin has been created it can't go anywhere unless it's removed in surgery , this the saggy tummy , breasts . Often losing weight actually makes the saggy appearance more dramatic but please trust that this is normal for a large percentage of women . There is a great site you can visit called shape of a mother and it shows the wide range of normal for mothers bodies . This may help you feel better The best advice I can give you is dont waste your money on creams and excercise to be healthy but don't think its makes the elastin fibres magically stitch back together . You would be better off spending time just doing your best to be healthy and accept your body and the wonderful life it bought into the world
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