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writes: I need someones advice really bad. I have no one to talk to about this situation because no one really cares. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. We have had our ups and downs. I broke it off about a week ago because it turned out to be a long distance relationship and he drinks a lot and is into hard drugs. Which i have dicussed with him on many occasions that i don't like the descions he makes. He is very book smart but not very life smart. I love him with all my heart and my heart will always be with him and i never wanted to break up with him in the first place but he just would not stop lying to me about things that i thought as his girlfriend, had a right to know about. But he continued to hurt me. So now on to my problem. I got drunk one night and somehow started making out with my ex boyfriends brother and slept with him. He always reminded me of my boyfriend but treated me with more respect. Which oviously he didnt that night this happened. In my heart it feels as if I have cheated. Even though I know I didn't. It was his fault we broke up and now its my fault we can never get back together. He has left me here waiting for him to change and for him to figure out things and i couldnt wait anymore. And i did tell him this. Now i dont know how to tell him what has happend without him hating me and killing his brother. What should i do?
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reader, lisarocksyoursocksoff  +, writes (13 May 2007):
 i think you should be a bit more selfish, yes it was abad choice to sleep with his brother, but i think you should forgive yourself, you haven't done anything wrong, you were single and so was he. as for your boyfriend i think you should play it be year, just becvause you did something you feel is wrong, that does not mean he hasn't changed and deserves to be forgiven.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for responding and this makes me think some more but i do deserve to think about this. i will figure out the right thing to do.
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reader, loretta +, writes (10 May 2007):
 rite, dont tell a soul about this, he's not gonna tell his own brother he slept wiv his ex is he? no way! 4get about them both an move on, if it dose come out it wont be for ages an if u do 1 now, u'll be long 4gotten about an it wont bother u when ur truely over him, sum men deserve wot they get but maybe u went abit far by sleeping wiv his brother, im shore u will look bk on this a laugh about it.
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reader, Maryann6873  +, writes (10 May 2007):
You made a mistake. If you don't tell him, his brother might. If no one tells him, he'll find out about it one way or another. Although you didn't technically cheat, you showed him disrespect by sleeping with his brother and that is probably what you really feel more guilty about than the whole sleeping with someone else. If he loves you, he will forgive you and he will put the past in the past. If he cannot do this, it may have nothing to do with you at that point, but with him. When people are unable to forgive they are unhappy about something in their lives. I think you need to tell him in your own words, rather than someone else doing it first. Before you do anything, his brother has a right to know and the two of you should probably tell him together. It really all depends on the type of person he is. Another thing to look at is, this could be detrimental to their relationship. Before you do anything, talk with the brother and see what he has to think. If the two of you don't get back together, then say nothing and leave it alone.
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