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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I had a chance encounter with a world famous professional athlete last summer on social media. I began tweeting him cute silly things figuring he'd never notice me because he gets virtually thousands of tweets everyday, especially from women.Things got out of hand, to say the least, when it appeared he began becoming receptive to me shamelessly albeit playfully "hitting on" him. He then signaled to me "name the time and place" and I was in awe and disbelief. As I said, I thought it was innocent playful one-sided banter on my part and he'd completely ignore me because he ignores everybody, then he responds enthusiastically and I'm just floored. I can never date him because I'm in a serious relationship notwithstanding many other factors involved that will never allow us to be together. Very soon after, I decided it would be best to delete my Twitter account and disappear from his life realizing it would be impossible to ever be with him. I didn't want it to continue knowing it was never going to happen.It is one of the most unexplainable and mysterious moments of my life and if it was any other time and the circumstances were right he'd be mine right now without question. Needless to say, I'm a little broken-hearted and 6 months down the road I'm unable to stop thinking about him.I haven't told anyone about this because I can't, for many reasons. So I'm here now, telling you anonymously to get it off my chest. I can see myself being 80 years old one day wondering why this ever happened between us, forlorn and bittersweet seeing the big beautiful family he'll one day end up having with his beautiful wife, wishing and knowing she could have been me. I'm not sure how I'm supposed to deal with this except to keep moving forward, trying not to be obsessed with him. Some days are easier than others. I read about him in the papers everyday and look at all his photographs, and wonder why this had to happen knowing I can't have him.Just looking for a little advice as to how to soften the blow and make it easier to move on. What can I do at this point besides keep playing pretend fantasies with him in my head? That's all I do anymore.Thanks for listening.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 February 2015):
 You are NOT in love with this guy. YOU are in love with the FANTASY of this guy. Why do I say that? BECAUSE you really don't know him from Adam.
You have an IDEA of who he is (or who you WANT him to BE) it is this IDEA (IDEAL) you are crushing on.
You have gone from crushing to OBSESSING and ... frankly it's not healthy.
May I add, that you shouldn't have been on his Twitter "flirting" when you YOURSELF are not available. THAT is not cool. I see no problem chatting to a famous person, but flirting and coming on to them? No, not of you are in a relationship. Are you not getting that the GUY is a normal human being who is just really good at "insert" sport? That he isn't some fantasy plaything? But a real live person?
You need to stop cyber stalking him and come back to reality. FOCUS on your REAL LIFE boyfriend, all that ENERGY you are wasting on a guy (all because he is a celebrity) USE that towards your BF.
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (14 February 2015):
 Assuming his account was verified? If not, it wasn't him. If it was, it was probably his PR/management team. Repeat to yourself, every time he pops into your head, "he's unattainable, the chances of it actually being him are like 5% and I have a wonderful boyfriend" - if the last part doesn't aplly, you shouldn't stay in the relationship and should try to get over this obsession before entering a new one.
Crushes on celebrities are fine, but you fuelled it (nurtured it for yourself) when tweeting those silly messages and now you've snowballed it into a problem for you.
No more "what if...." thoughts - cancel them all - and focus on real life :)
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (14 February 2015):
If this is all you do, indulging in fantasies, then do something else. It goes without saying that what you are doing is obsessive and not healthy for you or anyone around you.
Life isn't always having a bad choice and a good choice. Sometimes you have two great choices/paths in front of you and you just have to decide, and there is no right and wrong. I am pretty sure in this case he will be fine and you will be fine too.
Not to get technical, but if he's on celebrity status, these people have social media managers to interact with the public for them.
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