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writes:Ok, this might sound a little odd but I really need some help if you can give it! I am in love with a guy I met once about six weeks ago and spent only about 3 hours with him. He barely knows I exist, I am sure he doesn't even remember that night since we were both quite drunk, I didn't indicate that I was interested in him at the time and he is four years older than me (I'm 17, he's 21, we're both in college but not the same one) and got a bit freaked when he found out my age. We are friends on Facebook but with no interaction or anything and it upsets me when I see new pictures of him having a good time because I know I should be there too. Plus I get upset whenever I hear a song that reminds me of him, because we danced to it or else it just reminds me of my feelings for him. I get upset when I pass by the place we spent that time together (twice a day) and I even cried once or twice, now I just feel sad. My best friend knew how bad it was and now she thinks I am over him but I am far from it. And sometimes I get so upset that I can't eat for the whole day or just binge on junk. Plus every week since then I have gotten really badly drunk, trying to forget him or trying to get drunk enough to kiss someone that is not him and it doesn't work, I just end up emotional and drunk and messy - not good. I am a major creep but I don't know how to stop feeling this way.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (12 April 2011):
Okay, you just need to get your act back together. The age difference is nothing to object to and in your country you're legal anyway, so that can't be it. Aside from whether this guy likes you back or not (I think not, not if he makes such a big deal out of 4 years) you should focus on getting your life on the rails again.
I've fallen in love many times and I've been rejected many times. Then there were the forbidden crushes (on a teacher or someone who was married) which were even harder because I could not tell them how I felt. In the end you get over everyone. Sure, I've had times where I was really miserable because I knew I could never have that person, but you just hold your head high and move on.
Please stop drowning your hurt in alcohol and food. I tried that when I was around your age and I gained weight, not to mention that I started keeping odd hours. It just damages your health and then you'll be no use to anyone, especially not yourself. Please don't fall into that pit.
Get out, surround yourself with people, get a hobby, sport, anything to divert your attention. After a while it will go away, I promise.
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reader, little_3_eyes +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Sorry, you're still jailbait. That's why he freaked. You'll have to wait til you're 18 or only date guys 18 & under. I know it sucks :( But with time, you will forget him, and if not, when you turn 18, ask him out for "birthday drinks" (if you're not in the US that is).
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