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writes:Hi I am involved in a relationship with a married women and need advice. We have being having the affair for about two years. She's says that her does not love her anymore and they are only together for the sake of their child. She has already been divorced before and had a physical abuse in her marriage. She says she loves me and never wants to lose me in her life. Do I stay or go? I dont know if she is genuine or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): From my opinion u should give some time to the situation. I felt that she needed help and has no one to turn to.If she says she loves you it could be true. I think you should stay for a couple of months and be prepared to take the risk because it also involves you and your life. If the situation gets out of hand be nice to her and moved away from the situation.Best of luck!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 Is the physical abuse in this marriage or her last one? It makes a big difference regarding child custody and living arrangements. Do you love her enough to offer her a place to live, with her kids too? She's afraid to deal with a messy divorce and threats from her husband, and having no place to live. For her it feels safer to stay in the familiar than to deal with the scary unknown. The best you could do is to tell her that as a friend you would be willing to support and protect her. Remember your role is just to pick up her pieces, lend a good ear, but not to interfere with her decision making. Just tell her what you are willing to offer only when she comes to her decision. You have to make her feel that you are more than just an affair so she has the strength to go through this divorce. If all she does is complain a lot and does nothing about it, tell her you don't want to hear her stories anymore and you don't want to help her live a lie.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 If you don't trust her, this can't possibly work. If what she's saying about being physically abused is true, I can't say she's a bad person for wanting to be with you because, if I were her, I'd probably be with someone else as well.
She is being abused in her marriage? If I were you, I'd stay with her. I'm saying this because I think she really needs you for comfort, for the love she doesn't have in her marriage. Marriage is sacred in the eyes of god and some might question whether or not what she's doing is alright. The moment he started hurting her, was the moment that sacred vow was broken, she has all the spiritual and moral right to be with you. But that's ONLY if what she says about being physically abused is true.
Stay with her. That husband is not a man to raise a child around, but you, if you are willing to give her love, if you have love to give, you can be her ray of hope for happiness.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): Is her child from a previous relationship or the marriage she is now? Because if the marriage she is in now has physical abuse in it then she should want to leave him for her sake and her child. If she says she loves you but still remains in the marriage then she probaly isnt being that genuine. If you two were having an affair for two years and she "loves you" then she should have already left her husband. I suggest you leave this woman. I wish you the best of luck.:]
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