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female
age
36-40,
*ebekkah
writes:hi this is crazy i got myself an affair...20 years age gap me being the young one. we are both very into each other but i dont know how much longer i can carry on. my feelings for him drive me crazy and snap for him. this was not planned or thought out, we re just here. his marrige well..he never fed me the line 'im not happy @ home' or''my wife dosent understand me' in fact he says what a good friendship he has with her and good relationship he shares with his children of 4 and7. help...in the beginning he was addamant he wasnt gna leave but now its changing, id give anything to be with him with no lies or time deadlines. how do i make this happen?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 May 2007):
 He sweetness,
If him and his wife have a chance of making their family whole, you should DEFINITELY step out of the way. Leave your man and let him connect with his children and stop the lies in his relationship. Find someone who can give you his whole heart, and devote himself to ONLY you. You're worth that much, right?
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reader, eddie  +, writes (9 May 2007):
 I really like my neighours car....can you help me figure out a way to steal it. I know he really likes it and worked overtime to get it, but "I" want it. Afterall, it's all about me and my needs and desires............
This must be a joke. You're asking honourable people to help you commit the perfect crime. Where is your sense of morality and self respect. You do not deserve to gain your happiness by calculating and contructing a scenario aimed at causing pain toothers. Shame on you.
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female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 May 2007):
 I'm not going to give you advice on how to break up a happy family. Homewreckers piss me off. It's a shame he reproduced. You're right about one thing however, this definitely was NOT thought out.
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reader, - +, writes (9 May 2007):
Firstly I don't really like to encourage splitting up a family, especially with children that young.
I think you need to really consider what this will do to them before you rush into this.
However, the only way I can think of getting him to leave his family for you is talking to him. Tell him exactly what you want and how you feel for him.
In the end it is his decision, even if he truely loves you it will take a long time. Especially as he has a great relationship with his family. A family that he has built up for years.
If his marriage is as strong as you say I think you have got a fight on your hands to split it up and the only way you can do that is by talking to him and convincing him that you are what he needs
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reader, aunty jane +, writes (9 May 2007):
 Dont do it in years to come he could be doing the same thing to you.
you dont say if you are in any other sort of relationship...
steer clear from this man,they say all the right things to make you feel good and get you into bed then they go home to their partners...
find someone who loves you for you and wants to be with you wholeheartedly you dont want to be the cause of someones divorce and to shatter his family unit do you?
if this man really wanted to leave his wife he would do it without your help, if he did leave to be with you and things went wrong -you would be the one to blame
give this man time with his wife and take a step back
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007): If he was genuinly unhappy where he is - he might leave for a different life.I know this to be true as it happened to me - I left an unhappy marraige I had stayed in for the children.But even then it was heartwrenching cos of the kids.So if he is happy with her and loves his kids - U STAND NO CHANCE - wotever he may say in the heat of the moment.So either decide to remain a mistress or get out and move on - even if it hurts.
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