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*otsofgiggles123
writes:i have a boyfrined and (yes i know i am young for my age to have a bf) but the distance is killing im in (i am going to use other states not my or my bf's actual state) new york and he is all the way in florida the distance is killing us what should i do?
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reader, lotsofgiggles123 +, writes (19 August 2008):
lotsofgiggles123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question tee heee im actually im 10 soon to be elleven heh left out that detail
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reader, lotsofgiggles123 +, writes (19 April 2008):
lotsofgiggles123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe boy's age is 12
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (19 April 2008):
 Stayc63088 - There's always an exception to the rule, however. as you mention. time and money, something our little 10-12 year old here does not have.people seem to forget so many factors.someone has to basically give up their life in long distance.miles or even countries away from home, family, friends, jobs, personal home comferts and so on.Thus when problems do arise that person become more hurt because of what they have given up for the other person.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (19 April 2008):
 Internet dating actually can work, I just read Dr Vendetta's post. My neighbor met a woman online who lived in Austrailia and they talked for a year then she moved here and now they are married. And a few other people I know have met someone online and met in person also. Basically it's if you have money, patience, and are old enough to even leave your state to meet each other. It can work out, if you are older...
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (18 April 2008):
Long distance is very hard. I've been in 2 long distance relationships so I know this. Me being on the southern east coast and him being all the way across the country and another time a boy who was in the north-west. It is hard. Most of the time if you meet someone else in person the long distance relationship kind of ends. Unless it is true love. The truth is it doesn't get easier. Usually it just gets harder as you go because you become more restless to meet and be with them. I'm not sure how long you have been with the guy you are talking to now but I was with both of my long distance boyfriends for about 5-6 months each. In my opinion it would be a lot easier if you were older since there would be a better chance you could meet, it was hard for me to date long distance years ago when I was 16 because I knew I would be waiting a good 4 years before I would ever meet him so I know it must be hard for your age. You like him, he likes you. There is not much you can do meeting-wise so basically all you can do is talk as much as you can. Get on msn or aim and get a webcam (I'm not sure how your parents are so if this is out of the question ignore it), webcams help obviously because you can see them so you feel closer. You could call, if you have a cell phone with free long distance, at nights or whenever you have free minutes. If you have none of these things then talking on msn or aim or however you 2 met should do. Talk as often as you can and try not to get so depressed about the distance as there is nothing you can do about it. I won't say it is impossible for you 2 to make it but it will be extremely hard. Just have fun. You like talking to each other so keep doing it, if you each meet someone else then date them in person and stay friends online. Until then there is nothing wrong with talking to someone you enjoy talking to. Good luck and I hope I helped you.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (18 April 2008):
When i first found the net, i also found people. back then i found it hard to talk to people and meet girls. Long distance... doesn't work. i'm sure you're rolling your eyes and saying here we go again. well. yeah thats excatly how it is.internet dating and long distance doesn't work. friendship? sure. but " relationships" .... no gonna happen.theres the problems of visiting. because you're still a minor, you can't rent a hotel room to stay in because of your age.immigrating take 2-3 years and costs thousands. and now after 9 -11. even marriage doesn't garentee you entry. plus again. minor, underage.i hate to burst your bubble and rain on your parade but.. you need to realise, to what end is this going to? what are you expecting to happen from this?also how old is this boy?
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reader, salvation +, writes (18 April 2008):
well long distance is always hard age has no say in it, its a real test of love i was very mature at 12 i loved and lost so i know its possible to love. You just have to try your best. I hope you know this person though dont rush yourself. Good luck
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (18 April 2008):
 It's up to you if you think it can work go for it but if you having doubt end it. Your very young and will have plenty more bfs but it's down to your choice and make sure you make the rite one. Have you actually met this lad if not then how do you know who he is, he could be lieing. Be carefull and if you meet him always tell someone where and what time your going and coming back.
Good luck.
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