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writes:I have been with my girlfriend for a few months now and it has been great until recently when we spent a whole week together aboard in Spain. At the start it was all lovey dovey but then towards the end she got cold, admittedly I made small mistakes when she was tired which seem to upset her more. This was a week ago and we had made plans to see each other again next week but now she says she is busy and we have barely texted or talked the past few days, is she maybe going off me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLittle update, we texted last night, she did say sorry that she hadn't been in touch and that she was knackered guess going from a holiday straight back into 10 hour days so gave her the doubt there, also asked her if we were ok and she said yes we are fine don't worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did wonder if we were going too fast but she suggested the holiday because it wasn't expensive and I was like why not and she was very happy with that. She paid for the holiday I am still in the process of paying her back for it as she earns more than I do. I did wonder maybe if she just needed space. She did say to me though if she really thought I was being bad and wanted out, she'd tell me.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (1 December 2015):
 You're trying too hard to please her, she knows it, realizes it and is lording over you. Stop trying to bend over backwards. You didnt do anything wrong. She's just acting too high-handed. Who paid for the holiday, by the way?
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reader, RicoinCA  +, writes (1 December 2015):
There is no reason to be worried. At your age, a man should not be trying to please and please and please any more. Women in general do not appreciate a needy man. Use this trip and the short relationship as a learning tool. Check out "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida. It changed my approach to work, women and sexual desire and I know it will help you too.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (1 December 2015):
 So she is nitpicking you over actual little things. Maybe she has decided that yo two moved to fast and that she isn't as into you as she had hoped? Going on vacation with someone you have only dated a few months can be going a tad fast.
Was it "your job" to wake her up while on vacation? If so, then yes you failed a bit there. Going all the way to Spain to "sleep" is not really the greatest way to vacation. However, SHE should have been quite capable of hearing an alarm herself, shouldn't she?
Hugging her when tired? Didn't know that was a bad thing.
She IS nitpicking you.
Maybe she doesn't know how to end it with you so she is being a bit mean & unavailable instead?
I think your best bet is ask her to find time for you and then talk it over. If she is "over" the two of you, you deserve to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2015): Personally if somebody was annoyed with me because I didnt wake them up or carry their food then I wouldn't really care if they went off me. I know some women like to be waited on hand and foot but do you really like that quality in a woman?
Are you sure nothing else pissed her off because those reasons dont seem very much. Why did she rely on you to wake her up? I'm sure there are lots of people who would love a holiday and wouldn't let something as small as that ruin it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell it was silly little things like while we was on that holiday I didn't wake her up when the alarm went off for the morning only because I was so tired myself, I forgot to carry some food over for her and she had to do it herself, there were times when I would hug her and she said please stop I am too tired.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 November 2015):
What "small" mistakes did you make?
Can't really answer your question without knowing why she might be pissed off at you.
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