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writes:I'm 22 years old now, had this problem since I first started having sex. I'm unable to come at all when I'm with a woman- by myself I can do it, but I've never come during sex or other wholesome activities. However, I can orgasm-a little trick I learned whilst I was younger enabled me to orgasm without coming - this method allows me to have multiple orgasms one after the other, but still..... can't come when a woman is giving me them. I suspect its possible that I dont get enough pleasure with a woman as when I'm with myself, and my current girlfriend is starting to get annoyed by this (I've been very open with her about everything), and she wants me to come very badly! With previous relationships, I have even found myself 'pretending' when the rubber is on, I just hate to! I think it may be more of a mental problem now more than anything! Any help/suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): ive recently started going out with a man who never seems to come when we have sex hes 8 years older than me and makes me come at least twice each time we have intercourse, but he never does. so your not alone, although i do think you should explain what happens to your girlfriend because if shes anything like me she may think its her fault, which could affect your relationship in thwe long run. good luck and if you find a cure post it and let me know!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): I think it is a combination of physical and psychological reasons. Dude, you need to stop masturbating and getting self pleasure so much, your penis has obviously become accustomed to how you stimulate it and no women can ever compete with that.You've been doing it so long, you have psychologically conditioned yourself in to believing you have a problem so you create a self-fulfilling prophecy that guarantees you will never perform.I don't think a counsellor will help you, I think a good few weeks of abstaining from masturbation and a close heart-to-heart with your girlfriend about the situation will completely fix everything.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 July 2007):
 Flower girl is right.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (7 July 2007):
 I think this problem my well be pshychological and in order to get it treated your are going to have to visit your doctor and see if they can reccommend you for some counselling, but is it a problem that can be sorted out so don't worry.
Take care.xx.
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reader, am i alone? +, writes (7 July 2007):
 well well well,lol,i am only 18 and my boyfriend is 25,ive had a few sexual partners and each one of them all came.i honestly agree with you about it being a mental issue.all in your mind.are you extremely attracted to your girlfriend?cos sometimes if you arent really then that can stimulate your mind to think ''no she doesnt really turn me on'' and your mind can then trigger your body in ways that you have said. talk to your gf and tell her what feels nice and that might help set your mind at ease.good luck xx
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