A
male
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello everybody, I am a 17 year old guy who is extremely lonely. I am 6'5" tall and I'm not bad looking. I just graduated high school, I have friends, I have family, but I've never had a girlfriend, and I am pretty much the lonliest guy in the world. I just was wondering if you all had any suggestions for me so I am not so lonely. I have pretty much all I have ever needed, until now. Thanks for any help you can give.
View related questions:
never had a girlfriend Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2014): Its too bad we don't know each other because we are in the same boat! But to help with the loneliness thing just try and surround yourself with people. I personally hate being alone with myself. Some people would say that is a bad thing but the very best way to not be lonely anymore is to make certain you won't be by forcing yourself to be around people... even if it only helps for a little while. It gets better and you get less lonely... I promise!
XOXO
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2014): I forgot to tell you that you should persevere,persevere to achieve the goals I set in my previous post no matter how frustrating they could be.you have to bear the frustrations to become exciting and interesting to others and gain popularity.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2014): I was pretty much like you when I was at your age. It was near impossible for me to find a girl who would accept to date me. I am much older now and realize that I was a very dull and stupid guy then. So my message is try to improve your personality. Take up a hobby, learn to play guitar or piano. take up a popular team sport like basketball which is ideal for your height and mix with other people.and most important work hard to be successful in your studies and make a successful career for yourself and be smart, keep clean and well dressed and have a goal in your life other than making friends, you will find everything will fall into place then.good luck..
...............................
A
female
reader, llifton +, writes (29 July 2014):
 Well, if you have friends and family, at least you're not alone in the world. That's something to be optimistic about.
What do you mean you had everything you ever needed until now? What changed?
I didn't have my first real relationship until I turned 18. So you're not so terribly far off track. In fact, it's totally normal that you have never had a gf.
I'm sure you'll meet all sorts of lovely girls. Just be patient. You're still very young. In the meantime, just enjoy the people around you who love you, like your family and friends.
...............................
A
female
reader, Dionee'  +, writes (29 July 2014):
 Maybe what you need is something like a best friend. Someone who you're very close with because even people in relationships can feel very lonely. If it's all about you feeling lonely because you have no girlfriend then that is the problem here. The fact that you have no girlfriend is what's getting you down. If your friendships are not that great as in we see each other sometimes then perhaps you need to get out more whether it be with your old friends or to make new friends. Work on your friendships first. A relationship will come along. Maybe in college, maybe when you start going out more, maybe through a friend you will meet a lovely girl whom you may grow to like but don't let it get you down though. You will surely meet someone. As I've already said, a relationship won't cure your loneliness. There's no guarantee that you will be happy once you have a girlfriend. Besides, have you ever thought of doing the things you love? Going out and doing whatever you like doing e.g if you're an adrenaline junky, go out and do something daring or if you're more shy and like doing less daring things you can go out for lunches or visit museums and places like that. It's about you and what you enjoy. Before you think that what I'm telling you is useless, here's an explanation as to why I'm telling you to do the things you love: the people you might have more in common with and who will be into what you're into and also maybe even the girl you might be looking for, will all be out there, waiting for you (you never know), doing the same things that you love doing but in order to find or even have a chance at finding these people you have to get out there and live for you because while you live your life the way you enjoy living it, you will attract the friends/people that you may find that you always needed. So start living life OP and you may find what you're looking for. Good luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 July 2014):
 How are you lonely, when you have friends?
Perhaps your friendships don't run that deep? I would try and maybe connect with some of your friends and see if you can't build a stronger friendship, one where you can speak openly and completely be yourself. Maybe you will have to lose some of the friends who don't want a close friendship... But maybe you will also experience a deeper friendship.
A girlfriend is not a solution to any problems.
...............................
|
