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writes:When my boyfriend and I started going out with each other - after a few months we used to chat about what kind of wedding we'd have etc etc. we were both on the same plane about it cost wise and all that - not too expensive but a fun day and put our personalities into it. Lately though (together two years in October) he doesn't really chat much like that anymore! He doesn't mind me talking about it - like when my friends started getting engaged - and I'm not really pushy about it at all. Like he mentioned something along the lines of "I'd get you this type I think" When I was mentioning my friends custom made engagement ring. He knows my timeline too and respects it. I think that he's worried that I will want a baby as soon as I get a ring on it but that's not the case. I don't want a baby for several years - he's fine with that. But definitely has it in his head that il want a baby as soon as I get married! We are going to Ibiza in a few months on holidays. I jokingly said to him: "let's elope to ibiza!" And he said:"we are NOT eloping to Ibiza." I get it if he's not ready but I'm terrified he's changed his mind or is unsure or is waiting for something better maybe. My last relationship lasted 8 years. My ex went from - "I can't wait to marry you when you graduate" to "I'm not sure if I believe in marriage" to "I just don't think I ever want to marry YOU". I'm sorry but I dumped his ass based somewhat on that!!I'm terrified that's going to happen again! :-( what do you think?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (29 May 2014):
 Not quite sure how it happened for me this last time but I know that my current husband wanted ME to propose to him (and he took my last name)...
if you love this guy enough and want to get married to him ask him to marry you... why not?
I'm going to be VERY honest with you however... I have NEVER met anyone who didn't KNOW within 3-6 months of meeting someone that they wanted to marry them. My son met a girl last July. They got engaged in March and are getting married next April. He just knew.
Even if you are together 2 or 3 years... at your age you know within a few months...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 May 2014):
 You've already got two great replies.... Go with them....
Good luck....
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reader, oldbag +, writes (28 May 2014):
 Why not propose yourself ?
He can say yes or no.
Then you will know where you stand.
At the very least you can ask where exactly your relationship is heading, you need a timeline.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (28 May 2014):
 Instead of hinting and joking around - ASK him. Do you still see us getting married sometime within the next few years? (or whatever your time line is).
Why beat around the bush?
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