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writes:Hi, to be honest i'm not really sure why i am writing this. I dont know if i want help or if i just want to get things off my chest. The thing is i met a boy when i was on holiday when i was nine, we clicked straight away. After the holiday we kept in touch for a while via letters [the computer and e-mailing / texting wasn't so well known back then lol] but then we sort of lost touch. We live at the two different ends of the country btw. Here i am 9 years later and i am thinking about him constantly, i have searched for him on the internet and i found his sister on a website [like facebook]. I added her, but she must have rejected me. I also searched again and found out that he has a girlfriend. I was only nine at the time so it's fair to say that i don't know him anymore, and that i wasn't in love with him, so i don't know why i am feeling this way, it's killing me, and i don't want to live the rest of my life thinking 'what if'. I am a big believer in fate and stuff, so i'm hoping that if we are supposed to be together we will eventually see each other again, but again thats more fantasy than reality. I don't know what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): I've actually went through something similar to this twice!lol but with 2 completely different experiences. The first happened a couple of years ago when, for no obvious reason, I couldn't get one of my old childhood friends out of my head! I don't know why but I became obsessed with this idea that maybe something could have happened between us and spent ages trying to get in contact with him. When I finally got in contact with him he agreed to meet up with me, but he had completely changed and had become everything I hated!lol but I still view the whole thing as a good experience because at least I had nothing to regret, and could move on knowing there was nothing there. Then another year or so later another old friend contacted me and I was keane to see him and flattered to know he'd been thinking about me. We ended up dating for about 6 months, and even though we split, I was again happy just to know where i stood with him!!If it was me in your situation i'd keep at it..that way you'll never regret it because you never know about these things until you give it a go. Even if its not the romance you'd hoped for, believe me, you'll be relieved just to know where things stand between you! And you never know, he could be just as keane to see you!
I hope this helps!
Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): This is probably not what you want to hear but, what if "fate" does'nt want you to be together. Hes moved on its time you did too. You should'nt dwell in the past instead prepare for the future.
All the best xx
Who no's maybe one day but you have to wait and see.
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reader, hibiscus  +, writes (30 December 2008):
Hi,
this happened to me awhile back with a similar situation from when I was younger. I won't go into details, if you pm me I can explain more. The short end of the story was that in my case, I was no longer attracted to him once we reconnected.
This is not going to be helpful as I am not sure what you want from him (a possible relationship?). I sense you are curious about what could have been. Keep in mind that you are still young and although he might have a girlfriend now, he might not one day. Also, you might not have these feelings once you meet up (if you do). Try not to set yourself up for disappointment.
Also, do you feel that you want a relationship with him? Like you said, you lost touch and people change. You said you found his sister and found out that he had a girlfriend? Did you find him as well?
I sort of have a feeling that your heart is just lusting for the past. Try to have a level head and go with the flow
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reader, jessinit +, writes (30 December 2008):
i met a boy i was 13 he was lovely, 15 tho. i thort it was meant to be so we kept in touch a while then lost touch, when we contacted eachother finally he asked about my cousin who was there when i met him, this hurt me. find him figure it out and find ur true love and happy ending! i did with someone who loves me so can you!
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