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*arin99
writes:Hi my queston is if is a good idea to send her a marry christmas sms or email? or for new year wishes? or for her birthday, which she have it in the end of january. which it will be a month that we broke up and maybe is better then to show her friendship and getting back friendly in a slowly way. we have only a week that we broke up! we leave far way together in diffrent countrys, but we were planing to move together for ever. lately she did not write resently untill i pushed her hard and say to her where is the point of all of this,she answerd that she changed her minde and she had have a big dream since yers ago and she tryed to forget about what she wants and what to do. she have been thinking a lot about that and that her interest is in other culture!! actually staying with her i saw her that she like everything about that culture but i just thought is normal because she said me that she loved me and she like to have kidds with me!! we were planing to have family. she lovet to move abrout, she wanted to come to live in my country but i said to her that is better to go to her country and start from A everything because at the place where i live have so much crisis and for the moment is really a crap, but she loved nice weather!!!. i love her still but maybe is because she dumpt me or is just too soon to forget her?? i have other girls that i chat with and talk about to meet them soon and to go on but when i think of her i just feel pain and i try to not write her and say any bulshit because of my strong emocions!!!????thats a little bit of a story. any advice could be nice from you:greeting
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reader, MrsTetzlaff  +, writes (26 December 2010):
If you were meant to be together, she wouldn't have dumped you. I only read the title, because that is all I had to read.
You are lusting for her. You loved being together, but you cannot get over the fact that she didn't want that anymore. To replace the anger and frustration, you keep telling yourself that everything is going to be alright and she will be back.
Move on kid. It's for your own good. :-) Take Care.
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reader, marin99 +, writes (23 December 2010):
marin99 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionor maybe i should put my profile photo at facebook me with an other girls that i have good contacts with, but i dont love her and she aswell but she have a great simpathy fo me and i do for her???
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reader, marin99 +, writes (23 December 2010):
marin99 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionactually i have said to come to leave together the second day of break up and what we can do and stuff, she did not answered!! but in a day later i wrote her that i have been acting kinde of crazy lately but i found out that u are exatly right, we should break up and probaly this in the best for us. U just go for your dreams, culture, or whatever!! thats what i wrote, but have been 5 days and i still i do feel often really bad about her!!!!!!!!!!!! but sometimes i olso say it was right thing to do to let her go.we have contact in facebook and msn, skype and more. she got out our pic the day i wrote to come back and she changed her name in japonese( a bit stupid is it) then i have wrote the words of break up that i wrote in the line up. but since then i have start to hate her, but is olso pain inside. i did not contact her anymore and i think i wont for a whileat least all comments say that i have to let her go and they are very right. by the way she used that nick nake in smn and hyves and at the time that we were together, she wrote sometimes in japonese on her wall msn wall, like wish we can turn the the time at the first days we meet and some other stuff but which i did not understand!!!. i was totaly blinde. we abused on the moust presure word in world which is love. or maybe she did!! i did really loved her.)) but now she changed everywhere her name to a wired one and make as friend every japonese guy!!!! which i think this is so stupid aswell. maybe i should delete her for good, from all my contacts!! everywhere, what u think?? with respect marin
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): I would not contact her. It will prelong the agony of the break up. And you may wrongly see a response from her as a sign that, perhaps, she is still interested. Or you could get no reply and feel rejected. The best way to accept it is over is 'no contact', at least in the near future.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 December 2010):
 I'd just leave it alone. Time will help you. When you have strong feelings for someone, it always hurts when they end it. You now need to cope with your feelings and not be concerned about her. Good luck.
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