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writes:Hey guys how are you doing? I do not really have a serious problem but it is sometimes socially inconvenient. I am an 18year old girl, I am kind of attractive (guys have told me so in various ways), I am a sophomore in college and I am still a virgin. I never thought about sex like a lot of people start doing as soon as they become teenagers and I never felt the pressure to lose my virginity until now. NONE of my friends are virgins anymore and my closest friend has the tendency to tell me what she does during sex just to tease me. She only does it to make me mad because she always tells me to wait for the right guy. But that adds to the unwanted pressure I've been feeling lately.I do not want to have sex because everyone else is doing it, I want to do it with someone I trust and love enough to give him such a gift, because my virginity is special for me. But it is getting harder and harder each day because I've thinking a lot about sex lately, but I seem to not trust any guy enough to lose my virginity.Every time a guy seems to be interested in me, I know he just looks at me only because I have big breasts and a small waist but not because he wants a serious relationship with me, which makes me FURIOUS!! I want to wait to do it with someone special, but guys prove to me everyday that they just want one night stands and don't give commitment a thought. know most of your answers are going to tell me to keep waiting because the right guy will come, but in today's society, how can I know if I am ever going to come across a guy who not only wants to have sex with me but that wants to stick around and be with me??!!
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reader, virgin18 +, writes (8 December 2010):
virgin18 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I found the guy! we have been together in a serious relationship for 5 months now, and he is great. Thank you guys for the advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): There's nothing wrong with waiting, its the way God intended. Stay strong, I know it gets hard sometimes. Just wait and pray!
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reader, virgin18 +, writes (5 March 2010):
virgin18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for your advise I really appreciate it! I am going to wait because that is what I've always felt is the right thing to do but it is still a little hard. Although some of you do believe that not all guys are the same, I am kind of losing hope. Really. I know 2 type of guys; the guyfriend who likes me because I am his friend but is a player and tells me how much of a jerk he is with other girls (erasing any desire I might have to start something with him) and the jerk that would like to go out but expecting something more from me without wanting to commit. So how can I NOT lose hope when my friends, my friends' friends and the guy around the corner, act like jerks? The other problem is my age, I am 18 but I hang around with 20+ year old since I am a sophomore in college. Guys my age only want sex, which is why I do not even consider them, and older guys assume you have experience and know what you get in to when you are with them.
But oh well, lets see if this 'right guy' ever comes along...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): You're dealing with a numbers game.
Guys who want relationships want one girl at a time. Guys who just wanna get laid indiscriminately are trying every girl they can find. So you are gonna encounter way more of the latter guys if you just pick guys by letting them make all the moves. But that's not representative of how the male population actually breaks down. What you want is more common than you think.
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reader, ChristineAvril  +, writes (5 March 2010):
 Don't give in to pressure: it should be totally what you want and when you want it. You can't re-do your first time and you owe it to yourself to make it as special as possible.
At 18, you are not alone or even unusual at being a virgin.
I know loads of young girls that are still virgins, even up to 42 years olds, in my personal experience, so being a virgin at your age is not exceptional.
Also, they mostly complain that their first time was a load of rubbish (not only their first!), usually because it was the first time for the boy as well. This usually means a lot of fumbling, a quick dry hump, he comes - all too quickly - rolls off and leaves the girl wondering what all of the fuss was about - a very forgettable experience.
Most lads of your age are very impatient and/or selfish lovers, who cum too quickly anyway……usually due to furtive masturbation that they want to end quickly in case of discovery!
I would suggest that you wait until a decent man comes along and get to know him well, not just going for it to "get it out of the way". Also, look to the more mature man who will see you as more than a pair of breasts, but for yourself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): I can understand what you mean. There is nothing wrong with wanting it to be real. My first time was in a proper relationship and im glad it was.
So just go on dates and get to know guys better. Let a relationship develope and then....well enjoy lol.
Just make sure they understand that you are looking for a relationship not just a good time
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reader, yuridesu  +, writes (5 March 2010):
 He's out there don't worry
patience brings the best guys to you.
Its better if you find the guy, then him finding you cos they are probably just looking at your body.
a guy confessed to me , he was really good looking and fit, but all he wanted was my body, but then i fell in love with his friend who was a tall skinny nerd, i really like him.
so its better to find the guy yourself.
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