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writes: Hi,I have been married for nearly 4 years. My husband is a drug addict, coke user every weekend and sometimes one or two nights in the week. He has been to counselling but abandoned it. Has his own company, very succesful, but I am in debt to the tune of £100,000 due to us living on my credit cards while he built up this business. He is paying the minimum monthly payments until he can remortgage the house and pay all my debts in one go! Should be in a few months but has been saying this for two years now.He says he is going out on a Friday night for an hour or so, and then comes home in the morning, out of his head and drunk. Stays in bed all day, then gets on a downer and paranoid.I have two children, 2 and 4, who adore him completely and I feel their world would fall apart if I leave. I have asked him several times to move out of the house but he says he will not, the house is in his name.I took advice from a solicitor who says I cannot force him to move out. I want to go and rent a house but have no money and also I am very worried about being on my own with the children and how this will affect them. Is there anyone out there who is in a similar situation who is able to give me advice help in this matter?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2005): see if oyucan refinanceand get your name on the refi.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2005): yes, you can force him to move. You can divorce him on grounds of unreasonable behaviour and take out a court order evicting him from the house. He still has to pay towards the mortgage for a roof over you and yours kids heads until the youngest child leaves full time education, maintenance for the children and for you. See other solicitors, you can demand the top lawyer who deals with family law in the Co. Good luck. xx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 November 2005):
 I'd talk to another solicitor if I were you. If you are legally married, the house is considered communal property so is everything else of value that you accumulated during your marriage. If the house belonged to him before you were marriaged then things can get pretty murky. But you do have rights just the same and a good lawyer will be able to counsel you on them.
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