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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for three years now, I'm 21 and he is 31. About a year ago I stumbled across lots of naked pictures of celebrity women on his computer, no porn videos, but tons of celebrity images. I was quite hurt and told him I saw them. To this day he keeps trying to make me feel better by saying things like 'oh don't compare yourself to them, they're airbrushed beautiful godesses.' And I'm looking at these women seing orange fake tan, make up practicaly dripping off their faces, boobs that look round and rock hard, and he's calling them godesses? The celebrities he was looking at weren't the typical ones that spring to mind, but very cheap and nasty looking kind of girls.I know a lot of women, and maybe men, look at weekly magazines and check out the latest Hollywood gossip and celeb bodies, but I am repulsed by the world of Hollywood, I'm repulsed by how little girls look up to these fake and what I'd call ugly women, yet people seem to worship them as beautiful icons. Can someone please tell me why!? Is plastic surgery, fake skin colour and make up seeping from ones pores seriously what people find attractive? If so why?I feel quite sad in my relationship knowing its the Man in the relationship that obsesses over Hollywood perfection, and it offends me greatly since I thought he was a real guy, I thought he was quiry, cool and alternative; I am shocked to see his taste in women is so mainstream, sheepish, common, and to me, ugly and pathetic. I guess I shouldn't complain because if I'd found pictures of real beautiful women I'd be very jeleous.So I guess I'm wanting to know if there's anyone that feels the same way as I do on this topic? If anyone has any opinions to this please share them, thank you :]
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reader, blahblahblahh +, writes (10 September 2010):
 I'm going to dissagree with Universe man. I feel your response was a bit cocky, you say take comfort he doesn't look at your sister, I say not all men think it's their right to search for naked women when in a relationship! How selfish. How can you tell what she would find trashy? Many people find celebrity culture trashy. And thirdly, you should be the most beautiful woman in your mans eyes.
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reader, Universe Man  +, writes (10 September 2010):
Your problem is you want to be the most beautiful woman in the world to your man. Or be the only woman he ever wants to look at. It's not going to happen. You go to great lengths to trash the women that your man likes to look at. So typical. Whatever type of woman you found on his computer, I would fully expect you to trash that woman. Even if they looked exactly like you, you'd find something to trash. The problem is not your man, the problem is you and your insecurity and jealousy. Here's an idea, take comfort in the fact that it's not pictures of your sister or your best friend that he's collecting.
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reader, blahblahblahh +, writes (9 September 2010):
Well I do see the sad aspect to this. People can be hypocritical when it comes to celebrity. One of my ex's used to complain about how vacuous and plastic the women were on tv, yet he'd look at nude pics of them! Not everyone thinks plastic people are attractive, sadly many do. Like you say, if he looked at pretty woman rather than surgicaly enhanced women you'd be jeleous rather than offended.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 September 2010):
 You know maybe I'm the one who loves Hollywood in my relationship..I throw that US Weekly, Ok! mag in the cart if there's the girls from Teen Mom on the front, or a half naked Josh Hartnett. 40 days, 40 nights what a tasty movie...
Who wouldn't rethink their marriage if he got on one knee and proposed?
Anyways, some people have an obsession with Hollywood, some of those airbrushed, fake tan women make great screen savers or desktop pictures..but ultimately it's nothing but a fantasy and will not ever be acted upon. It's like soft porn to him, personally I think Jenny Mcarthy is hot, Paris Hilton flashing her downstairs not so much. Now, if your boyfriend had pictures of actual naked girls taken with a camera then you have something to be upset about, but they're celebrities whom are unattainable. Something that he likes to look at, not saying that he doesn't like to look at you but is it a crime to fantasize? If you don't like it then delete the pictures of the computer that's about all you can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): Get a grip! They are just pictures. I've probably seen thousands of pictures of naked women. But I wouldn't trade my wife for any of them.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Good, you can't have Johnny Depp cause he's gonna marry me...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (9 September 2010):
Nope.. people who my man will never meet don't threaten me. I also don't expect my man to go deaf, dumb or blind because he's dating me. I like when a man loves me, even though I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world. They got their money, their fake tans, and all that stuff.. but they can't compete with me, because there is only one me, and I am unique.
If your jealous of celebrity people on TV, movies and magazines, you got some serious self esteem issues and no man will be able to relax without you getting upset about something you see.
We had a post before about a woman who got upset because her boyfriend bought a bottle of shampoo with a pretty woman on it.. you need to examine your jealousy seriously, your nearly as bad as this if you get bothered by famous people.
mmmm.. wonder what you'd do if he started looking at porn instead?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 September 2010):
 Well my screen saver is the Cover of Rolling Stones with the TRUE BLOOD Trio, Alexander Skarsgaard, Stephen Moyer and Anne Paquin all BUCK naked covered in fake blood. It's quite a photo!
I think my husband have one of Jenna Jamison.... I rather he had a picture of some UNATAINABLE celebrity, then let's say.. my next door neighbor.
It's a "fantasy" I see nothing worrisome about it. There is unfortunately, no TASTE POLICE out there.
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