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writes:Hello!I'm currently obessed with this man who I don't know anything about. this past year I've ran into him a couple of times and each time I feel like he wants to flirt? He gives me these looks and smile. Like when I ran into him again a few weeks ago he actually stopped and slicked back his hair smiling at me. But thing is I was having a horrible day and ignored him by walking past him. Now I haven't been able to stop thinking about him. He's a handsome guy but is cripple? He uses a cane to walk and has a bad limp.I'm wondering if its worth going at it? How do I approach him? How could I ask him of he wanted a one night stand without sounding trashy??? Please help this has been really bugging me also I suffer from social anxiety but it hasn't been so bad lately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Wiseowle was the most helpful, You really hit the nail on the head with your answer. I have been skipping on my anxiety pills for a while now. I really did not think this through and was rushing into every possible situation. Will differently get back on track and avoid all urges to go to the place I usually run into him to avoid doing something regrettable, thanks again!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2013): You are a young girl with a crush; which is nothing more than a fixation on a stranger. Your obsession on this man may be a symptom of your anxiety disorder. He is a novelty because of his disability. That feeds your fascination. That sounds very unhealthy.
You're over-reading his every move; and that really isn't ordinary behavior, my dear. His smile is only being polite to a young girl who is staring him down. You're probably making him nervous as well.
Please do not offer this man sex. You know nothing about him, and you are obviously not thinking straight. You claim your disorder hasn't been so bad lately? I believe totally the opposite, based on what you say in your post.
If you are on prescribed medication; and you have been skipping your meds, I strongly suggest that you continue taking them as your doctor has prescribed them. It may help your obsession to subside; or at least help you to regain control of your impulses.
If you are seeing a therapist, please be sure to discuss your feelings about this man. If you approach him, he may not respond to your overtures in a positive way. He might think you're nuts.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 July 2013):
 why would you want a ONS with a stranger? is that all you think you are worth?
why does his mobility come into play? BTW the term "cripple" is really OFFENSIVE. I walk with a limp and sometime use a cane and I don't consider myself crippled. IMPAIRED maybe.. mobility challenged.. Handicapped. GIMPY but NOT crippled.
do you think it's the fact that he has a physical impairment that you interests you in this ONS? is he just a notch on your belt?
List of men to bed:
1. white guy
2. black guy
3. asian guy
4. crippled guy
cause that's my initial take on this...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2013): The next time you see him, stop and talk to him. Get to know him, give him your number and take things from there. If he wants to know you, he will.
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