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writes:I'm not sure what to do about my male friend.He used to fancy me, even though he is married, but i'm not sure if he still does. I saw him yesterday, but we hadn't seen each other for three months before that, and he got back intouch with me last weekend to ask me to go out yesterday. A relative of mine also went. He wasn't asked at first, but then my male friend ended up asking him. They have been friends a lot longer, as my male friend is a lot older than me, and so is my relative. My male friend kept winking at me when he kept telling jokes about my relative. He wasn't joking in a cruel way, he was just having a laugh. He also sat with his arm around me some fo the time ( not all the way around me, but on the top of the chair i was sat on ) . He bought me a couple of drinks and I danced with him to one song, and he held me close to him for a few seconds. Most of the time, he was saying that he didn't like dancing, and my relative made a comment on how he dances with his wife. I was dancing with some guys some of the time. I didn't like any of them, i was just having a laugh. Then suddenly, my relative came over to me and said that my male friend had left. My relative was drunk and he didn't say why he had left, Sometimes he can come out with nasty comments when he is drunk, so i'm wondering if he said something to him. I tried to call my male friend. The first couple of times i called, the phone rang but it went through to voicemail, and the third time i tried, it went straight through to voicemail, so he must have turned his phone off. I was upset as i didn't think it was fair of him to take it out on me, as i hadn't done anything wrong. Do you think i should just wait and see if he contacts me ?. My relative tried to call him today but he didn't answer the phone. I haven't tried to contact him today. I was hoping he would contact me but he didn't. I know that he has argued with my relative about me once before in the past, as my relative had a go at him about him fancying me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): Just a update. I heard from him, and he was upset with my relative. And we are only friends, by the way, because he has been friends with my relative a lot longer than he has with me. They have been friends for about 20 years. Also, i dont know why i am the one being shouted at when he was the one who did those things when we were out, and he was the one who got back intouch with me.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 Look: you phoned him three times and got no response. Whether he's upset with you or not, is of no consequence. He's married. You're wasting time and too much energy on this one while you would do better to spend a little effort in finding a single, decent, eligible man. (Or, if you don't want a single man, then getting on with your life).
I still say FORGET him and leave it alone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): We dont go out alone. As i said, my relative was there, and nothing has happened and i dont want it to. That wasn't even my question ( i didn't write the title ). My question was should i wait and see if he tells me why he went off ?. I dont like people being upset and not telling me what's wrong. And just so you know, yes, his wife does know that he hangs out with me and my relative.
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reader, asa0815 +, writes (24 December 2010):
Does his wife know he is going out with you and winking and keeping his arm on the back of your chair? Does she know that yall are dancing. Im sorry but as a married woman this is wrong of you to be doing. If he does fancy you he is a slimeball. Not being ugly but you shouldnt give him a reason to fancy you and you should not want him too.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 December 2010):
Your male married friend USED to fancy you? Your relative has had a go at him for fancying you? Good for him!!
You haven't done anything wrong Not much you haven't!
Sorry to be so blunt, but this man is MARRIED. He goes out with you while his wife sits at home. What's wrong with this picture??
I'll say no more.......
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