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writes:Now im not sure if its love or attraction , or if its a feeling that she may be the one , but there was this girl who was my classmate in high school , i developed a crush for her right then , asked her out after school ended - and got politely refused . few years later i saw her online at orkut , then facebook , we did interact but it was nothing much i guess , i did write to her last year on facebook that ive always had an image of her in my mind and i would love to go out with her , but she replied that we live in two cities , and the image that i hold is that of her as a girl , she may however call me if she is free , no call since . but the funny thing is that i still get feelings of love for her when i see her facebook profile . any help on this situation ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): It is not a love, if it was a love she could have communicated you regularly, usually in India the girls feel to be friendly with old friends and that makes man to feel love, I suggest you please remove her from facebook and stop communicating with her and focus on your own thing otherwise you will get hurt and I was the one who faced same problem and got hurt and don't want you to face such problem.
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reader, starrsky +, writes (17 February 2011):
starrsky is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for the answer , . and you are right i do have to study .
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reader, daisy_daisy234  +, writes (15 February 2011):
 Well, your question about-is it love or attraction? It is definitely attraction. If I were to explain love in this comment, I would run out of space... but to sum it up I have to say that love takes time to develop and it comes from knowing the person in a very deep level. You say you interacted with her, but it wasn't much.. and you never went out with her or were best friends. So love couldn't have developed.. do you know small things about her like what makes her laugh or cry, do you know her best quality and even her flaws. If not, then your not close enough to her to even start to love her. Now, on the other matter about what to do.. well you asked her out once and she refused, you kept talking to her,keeping in touch, and then she didn't call. She is basically telling you she is not interested, and well I suggest you let her go. I do not believe your feelings are that strong that you would do anything to be with her because well you are neither infatuated nor in love. Now the steps to let her go would be to first delete her from your facebook (it would help you so much), erase her number, and get rid of anything of hers that remind you of her. Focus on other things...and on your future, are you studying perhaps? Trust me, when you find someone that has feelings for you in return, things will change for you and then you will know you might have found love. If I am wrong, and you are truly head over heels for this girl (and you don't mind getting hurt as long as you gave it a chance) well you can first give her time and space, then try it slowly to become her FRIEND, gain her trust, show her how nice of a person you are, do small beautiful things for her, and then when you have done all these things, (and if they have worked), try to make your move by asking her out once more. Keep in mind, all of this will take so much time and patience, and she could probably still decline. But you would know you tried your hardest. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope I helped somewhat.
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