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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years. He is the nicest, sweetest and most loyal guy I have ever known. And this is why I fell in love with him at first. but as time has gone on im starting to feel less in lvoe with him, and I dont know if its just a phase. I do have really deep feelings for him but less than I used too. Now, it takes a good love movie/story to really make me acknowledge how much I love him. I dont think I could stand him being with someone else. Things he does that used to entertain me, now just annoy me. Things like kissing my forhead and holding my neck and embracing me used to be a heart-breaking like beautiful feeling, and now im just not sure how I feel. I dont think I want to lose him, but maybe we just need a break. I would break his heart. Any help would be great, thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2010): People often change in their 20's. You are probably not the same person you were 3 years ago, and therefor may not want the same things. Its possible your relationship has just run its course. Theres also the possibility that it is just a phase and you just need to work on getting that "spark" back ( i know it sounds lame but its true!). Many times we take the people we are with for granted and only realize how much we want to be with them once its too late and they are gone. Maybe you just need a break and not see each other for a while to see if you reall ymiss him and want to stil be with him. It has to be clear that this break is not to "see" other people. MAke sure he knows you still very much together and just need to clear your head. If you don't specify that he may take it as a cop out and really just a break up.
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reader, Waiting for an angel  +, writes (26 May 2010):
It can happen its not so much that you dont love him anymore it might be that you're bored , that you have nothing new to look foward for in the relationship. If you want to save your relationship bring back the spark to it , take a drive at night do crazy unexpected things that will help you rekindle the flame. But first analyze your feelings and most importantly communicate with him he might be feelin the samething , so talk to him and ask him how he feels & explain your feelings . Dont make your relationship a routine because it can hurt your relationship drastically. Goodluck.
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reader, variety5160 +, writes (26 May 2010):
 It is normal for the rush of being in love to subside some. It is ok that you no longer experience a rush of goodness when you touch. This doesn't mean that yourlove is fading. What it does means is that your love is maturing. Those little things he does that you used to love and now you hate that is ok too. Your likes and dislikes change. Try not to focus on the negatives but only focus on the things you do like about him. Most of all, speak up. Nothing kills a relationship faster than a lack of communication. Tell him that you think your preferences have changed and you would like him to kiss you this way instead of the way he has been doing it. Stress that he isn't doing anything wrong you just want to try something else out, see if you like it better. Ask him if there is anything different you could do for him. My husband and I have been together for 20 years. There has been much that we have not liked about each other or the way the other does something. Whenever I questioned my love for him, I would always ask myself if the thought of him being with another woman would bother me. You mentioned that this would bother you, that is a good sign.
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