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I'm not sure if he is into me, am I wasting my time?

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Question - (31 July 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 1 August 2011)
A female Ireland age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Is he into me or not?

So i went out for dinner with an old college friend. This is the first time we went out alone.It was not a date, more like two friends catching up. I think both of us had a good time.

So he stays in another city. Around 3-4 hours away from where i do. I was there on work. He wanted to know if i could 'extend my weekend'. I wasn't sure...i had other commitments. After dinner, we shared a chocolate shake. He was a gentleman, he dropped me off to the door of my hotel, hugged me and that was it.

Since that day, we've been in touch. We text each other for about half an hour while we are travelling in the morning ...and we chat for around an hour at night.

But the thing is...he's been very nice and sweet. But he's never given any hints as to whether he likes me or not. I know its just been 10 odd days.

Ofcourse when we chat..he has told me a lot about himself. About his childhood. About the fact that he's single :D...he cracks jokes n we both laugh. He keeps on sending me pics of his office/childhood memories/pretty things etc..

But somehow i just don't feel he wants to date me...

Now i'm planning to go and visit the city where he is staying to attend a friend's wedding after two weeks. Should i meet him? Or should i just let it go...

I don't want to appear like a fool. I really Like him

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011):

If you're getting platonic vibes from him rather than romantic interest, friendship is probably what it is (and from what you've written I'd be inclined to say the same). Of course sometimes romance can blossom from mere friendship, but if he doesn't give any indication soon of that being a possibility, you can't hang around waiting and hoping!

I don't think there'd be any harm in meeting him when you're in his city if he's happy to see you too. After all, it's early days yet; you're still getting to know each other all over again and you can probably afford to give it a bit more time. If it's clear that a mate is all you'll ever be to him though and that isn't enough for you, perhaps you'll have to distance yourself from him for the sake of your heart. Just see how it goes for now, and don't worry if it doesn't work out with him - there are plenty of other guys out there who can reciprocate your feelings :) Good luck and take care x

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A female reader, Venesa Kenya +, writes (1 August 2011):

Some men are diffrent,they would like to take there time before making a real move,so dont take him by a surprice,you wil only be making a fool of yourself, remember, he is not yet your man,even if you find him with another lady,you wont acuse him of cheating,let him know of your visit. wel try this if it wil work: try to call him at nights,if he picks your calls thats a good sighn,if he doesnt or his phone is switched off most of the time,then just know he is hooked up somewhere, and just not into you, let go and move on with your life,i belive there is a lucky guy somewhere for you.

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