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writes:Hello everyone,My hubby working as a truck reloader (permanently), 34 years of age, American guy.I'm filipina 26 years of age. I'm processing my papers already to move soon. He sent money to me every month almost 500$ if needed so I have extra money worth of 2h$ for my daily expenses (double of my salary here in Philippines). I do appreciate it and thankful.This month asked politely that I should share some money to my brother's wedding this 3rd week of march and he said he will give 100dollar and also to me 100dollar for my birthday so I will have 200 dollar and then his grandma sent 40dollar for my present birthday. But I feel I'm not satisfied coz I only recieved the same amount. I'm thinking 240$ is the same amounth how much i recieved evry month. i feel like no birthday! (Actually firs, I ask him a 200h$ but he refused it coz he said it's only 1h$ he can afford and i said that okey coz I know he spent a lot on our wedding last Oct, 2010). So agree with him coz I don't want to sounds demanding so I said that okey I can share my birthday persent to my brother. He said okey.... so everythings fine.... but I expect I have budget for my daily expenses coz he know already that I am the one provide my mom medicine. I keep feeling not satisfied. My sister always compare his husband to my hubby also. Her husband work as a truck driver(regularly) she said she has 500 to 600h dollar a month when shes here in Phil(not included the processing expenses). My older sister keep saying to me that she can't believe that my hubby sent a little to me. We have friends too that they are provided more than me and I'm feel jelous to them. But I love my hubby so I want to show him that I am happy and contented. This day for not having what I expect, I don't know I feel numb and someting like my love starting to faded but when hes not with me I missed him already and feels scares to loose him. He's not online today.yesterday morning I told him that I expected more this month but he only said that all he can afford for now. I feel really sad. He always asking if I'm okey but I always pretend. I have some words that I say thats okey actually this is our family problem you don't have to worry.yesterday night I still pretending that Im okey(But in my mind I still in my problem now and I wanted to be heard). I don't know if I am acting right now.Hope you can hear me soon and would be really appreciated.
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reader, sanetlaagan +, writes (17 March 2011):
sanetlaagan is verified as being by the original poster of the question GeeGee255 Thank you so much for an outstanding messeges this is not easy for me now to really act that I'm contented but I'm always pretending thou and try to control what my negative thouth. yes, I guess you right maybe he bother me if I compare him to my brother in law. That's I don't want to happen coz I'm sensitive person also and I care him much. Thank you a lot!
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 Look your husband is sending you what he can, and you are able to buy medicine for your mom, pay your bills and get what you need for the most part. Maybe you are not rich, but you are not starving either. right?
So you need to stop telling these other people how much he is sending you, and tell your sister you don't want to hear how much she is getting from her hubby either. Because it does not matter. It is not a contest.
Do you think her husband loves her more because he sends her a little more? No! of course not. Maybe he just makes a little more money than your husband does, but maybe your husband is more handsome then hers, or is sweeter to you.
Whatever, there are always going to be people have more and people who have less. Some have a lot less then you do.
The trick is to be happy and grateful for what you do have. Or soon your husband will get angry with you and think that you care more about the money then you care about him.
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