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writes:He won't take no for an answer. I met a new man about 3 weeks ago. He seemed quite keen and interested in me so I gave him my number as I thought we could talk and get to know each other better. I told him I wanted to take things slowly and didn't want to rush into anything and after talking to him and being let down by him on the first date, I realised that this man was not for me. He has no job, no home, no clothes, no car and no money. He only seems to be interested in two things "SEX" and just wanting to come around to my house after dark. He hasn't yet taken me out anywhere. We have argued about this many times and about the way I feel he should be treating me and all he can offer is his love and affection which he claims is growing more and more for me.I have told him that I am not interested in him as he is not really my type and neither am I his. He won't listen to a word I say. He keeps calling even though I ignore his calls and when I do answer it I try to tell him in a nice way that I don't want to go any further with this thing. He claims he is broken hearted and has told everyone about me that I am his woman. I have even been very rude to him on the phone telling him that he needs to get himself a job and a roof over his head among other things before I can even think to consider him. His persistence is really causing me to dislike him even though I have said we could just be friends but he won't have it that way. He only has my mobile number and doesn't know where I live thankfully. I cannot block his number as it is a mobile but he is really driving me mad and just wont get the message. He is unbelievably a very mature man in his 40s and so am I. What more can I do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): I started to date someone like that years ago, who wouldn't take NO for an answer. He knew where I lived and I finally had to tell him that I would call the police if he kept bothering me.
I would signal your cel phone to play a certain tune when he calls so you are sure NOT to answer. Or when you recognize the number, don't answer it.
Answering your phone is FEEDING him to want more!! He still thinks he can negotiate! Eventually if you IGNORE that undesired behavior he will stop and feast on someone else.
Trust me.
IGNORE the call. Do not give him the time of day.
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reader, AylaJ  +, writes (7 September 2007):
He sees a meal ticket!! I've had two stalkers and one guy that was so pushy I had to threaten him with a restraining order and another where I had to get a restraining order. See a pattern? If your 40 now look back on your life and see if you a pattern as well and see how you can try to keep these men out of your life. But in the mean time!!.....
You need to let the police know so you can file a report because if he tries anything physical, threaten you, or call you more it won't make a damn difference until you make that first report to the police.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): If i was you i would go and have a word with the police. Put them in the picture just in case you need them in the future. Then i would change my phone numbers and only give the new number to a selected few people. He knows where you live so be careful. Don't answer the door if you know that it is him and certainly never answer it after dark. Take some advice from the police who have to deal with things like this a lot, they will point you in the right directions. Good luck.take carexx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): He is crazy and he's looking to you to be his meal ticket. He obviously does not care that you don't like him. He has no self respect or pride. I would be very careful, he sounds obsessive & probably feels like he has nothing to lose in life & may end up hurting you. Never tell him where you are, live, shop, work, etc. Change your number.
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reader, Arriella +, writes (5 September 2007):
 He wont know otherwise but tell him the police are tracking your phone calls.Perhaps change your number. People like this become obsessive and you have every right to be concerned. Dont try and spare his feelings because this behavior is not normal. You just need to get this man out of your life immediately. Best of luck
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reader, flower girl +, writes (5 September 2007):
 You will have to ignore the calls altogether, don't give him the time of day.If you answer even one call it will give him the impression you do like him, it might last a little while longer but if you do not talk to him at all he will soon get the message.Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Well can't you ask your network provider to block the number for you? If not consider getting another mobile number. As you said he's not the man for you and is being obsessive, quite scary behaviour really. Whatever you do don't give out your home number or any further details about yourself ie work, home etc or your routine. Don't feel guilty he's trying to pressurize you into something you don't really want.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (5 September 2007):
Tell him to stop contacting you or you'll call the cops. Then do it if necessary. He may have a mental illness if he can't stop himslf.
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