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writes:I really don't know what to do. I am 25 and I have been with my b/f for 6 years and I thought I was in love with him but now I dont think I am. But Im not sure- I think all the problems we have been having are because it boils down to the fact that im not sexually attracted to him.Anyway- I guess I have been feeling these issues because I saw an old flame last week. I was SO tempted to cheat but I didn't, but we spoke and it turns out he wants to be with me- but knows the situation is not right.This has completely messed my head up- I want to be with him so bad- its rekindled all the feelings i have had for him the whole time I have known him- since I was about 9.We have always flirted and been silly together- hes always been there, so seeing him and talking to him like this has driven me crazy. I have a good job, a mortgage, everything is going by very nicely- but I dont want it anymore. I just want to be with my old flame.I don't know what to do- please help, huge dilemma im in tears pretty much constantly and my boyf just thinks is because I am homesick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): You need to ask yourself why you broke off with your ex in the first place and why you have continued with your current boyfriend if you are not sexually attracted to him. What is keeping you together?
Sometimes it is easier to remember the good bits about an old flame. You don't say who finished it or why and need to think about all this.
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reader, katypnuts +, writes (17 August 2007):
i have just gone through exactly the same i didnt sleep with my bf for 12 months and when i saw my ex that made my mind up i was leaving, ive moved back with my mum and im just friends with the ex for the mo but i feel its such a weight of my mind that i left him, we also had a mortgage but if your not happy and you have feelings for someone else then you definately shouldnt be in a relationship, if your unsure just take a weeeks break thats what i did then i decided i didnt want to go back i think that soften the blow slightly, as far as the mortgage anything like that can be sorted out but just stay friendly and polite dont let it get nasty. good luck x
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (16 August 2007):
 I think you did the right thing by not going behind your boyfriends back & cheating with this old flame.
It sounds like you have lost all your feelings for your current boyfriend, and you are not sexually attracted to him. I would tell your boyfriend how you feel and end this relationship sooner rather than later. The longer you let this go on the harder it will become. Sure he will upset but in time he will get over it, and it will be a weight off your shoulders knowing you did the right thing and did not lead him anymore than you had to.
You can then at a later date persue things with this old flame with a clear concience.
Hope this helps x
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