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I'm not a flirt so why am I feeling this way?

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Question - (25 May 2012) 1 Answers - (Newest, 26 May 2012)
A female Netherlands age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Dear dear cupid,

I dont understand how i feel for this guy. So here's my situation.

Two weeks after i broke up with my bf, i noticed this guy at work. It's because he had the same perfume with my ex. Every time i see him i go near him so that i can smell his perfume, i dont know if he notice me doing that.

And my friend (co-worker) knows that too. We have this one incident in the pantry that he go to get some water, so he bend a little bit to the water dispenser and we are at his back (me and my friend) I made a joke to my friend like biting my lips and looking at his behind (just for fun). And we laugh.

But now im starting to feel different. I always wanted to see him. My work station is located in front of him maybe 3 more seats before him so when we stand up we will see each other because we have this office wall or cubicle. And every time i stand up i always see him standing too talking on the phone. In short were always having this eye to eye contact. I want to look away but there's this force like a magnet and i just love looking at him and i can feel that he feel the same way too. And EVERYTIME we have an eye to eye contact i suddenly feel hot. Yesterday while i was having a nap on my station he pass by the same time i wake up and when i look at my mirror(table mirror) i saw him look at me i was so shy because i look so sleepy and i have this red mark on my forehead because i was leaning on my table. When he pass by i feel hot again.. And fix my self. I dont know if im blushing or what. And im imagining things like me and him kissing and hugging and so on..

Now i dont know why im feeling this way. I feel like a pervert. I hate it. I just want to concentrate on my job. And every time i see him i lose my concentration.

And when i look at him im scared that maybe he will feel or notice that im attracted to him.

Is this just a physical attraction? Or more than that?

But why im i feeling this way? Im not a flirt just a very simple girl. I hate my self for thinking bad things like kissing him, alright imagining having sex with him.

Im starting to feel conscious when his around.

Please help:-(

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (26 May 2012):

aunt honesty agony auntThere is nothing for you to be embarrassed about here. You are physically attracted to him, it all started with him reminding you of your ex through his scent and now you are noticing him more, and you have probably developed a bit of a crush on him. You are not doing any thing wrong, and there is nothing wrong with flirting with someone. At the end of the day you are free and single to do what you like. So just enjoy the attention that you get from him, and who knows something might happen between the two of you once you get to know each other better. Just enjoy it.

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