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female
age
22-25,
*me
writes:I'm a 21 year old very slim, very attractive girl. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a lil over a year and as far as the average arguments between couples we seem to be doing Great. The problem ly's within our sex life. I can get him hard for a small period of time but if he goes down on me or we switch position..He goes limp.I've always gotten more excited when I'm pleasuring him.I have talked to him about this and he either ignores the situation or say's he wasn't in the mood. Then during a recent argument he told me that he gets bored sometimes or to close to his orgasm and then loses it. Then He also said He's been numb down there for a month. I've tried things and even referred themed sex. But the situation continues to be ignored.Our sex life shouldn't be an issue, but the less we have sex the more I want it. I know this shouldn't effect the way I feel about him but it does and I'm then considered selfish. I don't know what to do..There we're periods of time when the sex was amazing and even then it had seemed to be a challenge with pre mature cumming. He is 26 and passed his sexual peak (from what I've heard) and His work isn't that stressful..He does smoke but eats healthy. He's even a really great guy but I'm finding myself fantasying and watching porn more often and even thinking about ending the whole relationship. I do love him and want to work on this but without his cooperation I find myself becoming frustrated and we don't have medical insurance so I can't ask him to see a doctor. The higher sex drive on my part is even causes the issue to become a bigger problem and the idea of ending the relationship is pushing us further apart. I don't want to lose what we have but I definitely do not want to look forward to abstinence.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (5 January 2009):
 It sounds like he may need to see a doctor, sweetheart. Seems like he may be suffering from low testosterone. He can get his hormone level checked with some simple bloodwork, and in the meantime, you might try using an ED treatment before the doc gives you two some results.
Are you using condoms and hormonal birth control? Remember, safe sex is the best sex!
Good luck sweetie!
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reader, chrissa  +, writes (5 January 2009):
you are certainly in a very awkward position maybe the first thing you could try is natural substances vitamins and minerals make sure his body is getting a balanced diet. The only thing after that i know of is viagra, whatthis does is increases blood supply to the penis making it the hardest biggest erection he would have ever had. It doesnt give him a constant erection like you may hear people joking about, you take it an hour before intercourse then when he thinks about sex/gets in the mood he will get an increased erection, when you change position he wont lose this erection as the medication is now keeping it for him, amazingly he will the even be able to ejaculate yet carry on like nothing has happened he wont be tired and will still have full desire to please you try it if you can it is good news. Be aware though dont use viagra if you have heart problems and viagra may cause head aches GOOD LUCK!!!!
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